Who to invite to a small intimate wedding!

Start with the two of you.

Add parents and siblings. Spouses and kids if they have them.

A few close friends.

There, you're done

Thank you, just with my family there's almost 20 that's immediate family

I agree with Holly.

How many siblings do each of you have?

Also, what is your definition of "immediate?"

If your families are that large (20 just immediate) just have them and no friends.

You

your parents

your siblings and so's

two friends each

The end!

I just got married!

We had 12 guests.

Our best current friends and their significant others and.. that was it.

We're taking our immediate families out to dinner next week. (3 parents, 3 siblings, 3 nieces/nephews)

ETA: If you hardly see or talk to them, who cares if they get butthurt? "Our venue will only allow" and "Our budget is very small.." are good ways to start excuses as to why they werent invited if they have the balls to ask you.

Blood relatives are just people you randomly got tossed into life with. The people you actively chose to keep in your life are your family. Invite those people (whether they're blood relation or not). That's it.

We are inviting our parents and sibblings along with their family, and people we consider best friends. This is 25 people in total. We anticipate another 5 potentially for new relationship or plus ones.

I have 11 siblings, 3 bros in law, 4 nieces. My fiance has 1 brother, 1 niece, and our parents which are all remarried. And have quite a few close friends

Just immediate family members and 2-3 close friends each.

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You might want to just invite your parents and step-parents, then. Some of your family may be sad about missing it, but you can celebrate with them in more individual ways later on. If this is the kind of wedding you want, then stick to your guns. It will be worth it.

Consider not inviting the children / nieces / nephews? Then it's only 19 in family, not counting you. Is that not as small as you were hoping?

Don't worry about people's feelings. Not trying to sound mean but your plans sound much like mine... intimate ceremony on the beach and reception once we return home with friends and family. I announced our plans right at the beginning.. only because we knew how small we wanted it from the very beginning. Those that have said something about it to my face, lol, have been very understanding and supportive.

I hear you on this one; my immediate family is 30. So when considering people if you think of them and you realize your reasoning is gearing more towards not wanting to offend them...then they are not the ones to invite. If you look back at photos from your big day and cannot imagine not seeing them there on your big day then those are the ones to consider. Never feel obligated...they will talk regardless smh