Who to give gifts to?

My FH and I are getting married in 2 months. We started talking about gift giving to those who have helped with planning, but we are both unsure who all needs gifts and when to give them. Would love advice.


We are definitely getting gifts for the attendants. He got all his guys Leatherman tools inscribed with their names. I’m getting my ladies personalized makeup bags and filling them with the jewelry and chiffon wrap for the day of. We also covered our niece and nephew ushers with covering fun activities for them. But then comes the parent type people.
His parents are divorced, and his mother is organizing and hosting the rehearsal dinner. So far, I don’t think his father has covered anything. My parents are deceased, but I’ve asked two couples to be honorary parents, my godparents and my parents’ best friends. My godfather is walking me down the aisle and I’ve already lined up a personal gift for him as a thank you for that. Beyond the expense of traveling to be at the wedding and the special attire needs, they aren’t contributing financially to the wedding. My FH has a few aunts who are also hosting the farewell brunch the day after the wedding. Do they need gifts? (If so, what about the bridesmaid planning my bridal weekend?) I figured we could get everyone photo albums of the wedding, but I’m used to gifts being given at the rehearsal dinner. Who all do we need to get gifts for? Any suggestions on what type of things we get people? We are also at that point where we are just flabbergasted by how much the expenses are piling up, so I think between that and not knowing what to get for people, he’s hesitant to start buying a bunch of gifts.
Oh and then there’s the wrinkle that we’re essentially doing a destination wedding, so any gifts need to be small enough to fly home with.