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Devoted November 2019

Who thought about dis inviting family and really did it ???

Chrisheena, on October 28, 2019 at 6:53 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 6

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So I'm 25 days in til the biggest day in my life. Some of family is really burning my bushes. Instead of asking the right questions they are being self absorbed like its their wedding. Not asking or taking the stress away but adding to it. I literally fired my MOH. My grandmother is really pissing me off and now my aunt. Complaining......for what I dont kno. I feel like if this type of energy continues I'm really thinking about dis inviting them. If you cant support me with the little things like my BIRTHDAY or Christmas etc. Why should ppl be here for my special day taking up space for someone else who really cares . I need help my fellow peers.

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Alejandra · on October 28, 2019 at 8:06 PM
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I think unless someone did something absolutely horrible, I wouldn’t disinvite them. You’re less than a month out from your wedding, which means YOU are incredibly stressed out and that can cloud your judgement. Maybe ask them to calm down, but don’t uninvite them.
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Caytlyn · on October 28, 2019 at 9:32 PM
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In situations like this I think it’s important to take a step back and look at your actions instead of only judging the actions of others. Are all of these people really behaving poorly or are you? It seems that you’re the common denominator here. I think that uninviting close friends and family from your wedding is a big, permanent decision. Unless you’re prepared to lose these relationships entirely, I would reconsider.
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Tammy · on October 28, 2019 at 10:29 PM
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I've known people to ban family members from their wedding. If the actual relationship between you an another member of your family is toxic, then I don't think it would be wrong of you to ask them not to come. I believe you should discuss with your partner about how best to approach it. Again, I don't think it's wrong of you to uninvite people. It is your wedding day after all, and you shouldn't have your focus drawn away from celebrating your. union on your day.
Have you thought about having a chat with your grandma and your aunt after a few days? Maybe see if it settles down and you can talk it out? Or maybe there's someone that can act as a mediator in the family to communicate your concerns on your behalf? Just some options.
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Chrisheena · on October 29, 2019 at 10:50 AM
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I thank you for considering it's my day. Is that they want control of everything. And that energy I cant deal but I will take your advice and just let the dust settle. I talked to my fh and he's pretty much bout what I'm about. No stress. I'll pray on it and I'll see them at the wedding.
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Tammy · on October 29, 2019 at 11:44 AM
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You're welcome! I know you love your family, but I believe the wedding should be about the couple, not about pleasing others for feeling obligated to entertain the masses. It's ok to have that one day that you're celebrated - and wanting those you care about to join in to celebrate you as well shouldn't be a lot to ask for. It's asking them to support you in your decision to be faithfully devoted to your FH.
I think sometimes it's hard for others, especially those who we might consider our elders, to not assume control over situations. It can be annoying, sure, but usually their intentions are not to cause you any harm/stress.
All seriousness aside, I'll tell you there are times that I just agree with "that one crazy aunt" in an argument just to move pass any potential drama that might otherwise stir up. LOL [Things I don't have time for....THAT (drama)]
Congrats on your upcoming wedding Chisheena! I hope everything goes well!
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Chrisheena · on October 29, 2019 at 10:19 PM
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Oohhhh everything is gonna work out because because prayer changes things and I gave to God to give me peace. I'm so thankful for this platform because when it's just you....omg my brain be so eradicated because I go off impulse. And being open and asking questions to other couples is really a big help during this process. So thank youuuuuaaaa whole heartily will definitely keep this advice in my arsenal because I be ready to blooooow. Thanks a bunch ❤🤟🏾🤟🏾🤟🏾
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