Who should walk me down the aisle?

Then you shouldn’t have your brother walk you. It’s not up to your mom, but I think you should talk to her and explain that this is what you want to do and ask her to give her boyfriend the ok.

You should have whoever YOU want, not who your mom wants. I surely wouldn’t ask someone to walk me down the aisle that I hardly had a relationship with. I don’t think it’s disrespectful to have your mom’s boyfriend walk you, but I would make sure this is someone you’re always going to have in your life, even if his relationship with your mother doesn’t work out.

Why not just bypass the male role and ask your mom to walk you down the aisle? Not only will you have someone you’re close to walk you down in that honored position, but it will also stop Caytlyn’s scenario of your mom and her boyfriend theoretically breaking up in the future not be an issue.

View Quoted Comment I agree with this. Pick whomever YOU want. It's not their choice to decide for you.

Pick whoever you want and if you want to include both you can have one walk you down halfway and then the other walk you down the other half.

I think he just doesn't want to cause any drama because you're brother may possibly feel some way that you're mothers boyfriend is walking you down the aisle

View Quoted Comment 100% agreed! There's no rule that says your mom can't walk you down the aisle. It doesn't have to be a man, especially if neither man feels quite right.

View Quoted Comment I agree with this. Consider having your mom walk you down.

It sounds like your brother is not a good option. Personally I would either walk myself or ask my mom to walk me down the aisle. You don’t have to have a man beside you.

Your brother isn’t the best option. You barely have any relationship with him. Why not just your mom? This day & age, anything goes! When my daughter has her vow renewal in a couple of years, I’m walking her down the aisle.

People who blow out in their teens or twenties, abrasive or rejecting of some family members they once treated lovingly, Grow up. And often find, deep down the feeling is still there, but take a few years to actually breakout and say, lets forget the last 2 or 15 years, and start being family again. Maybe with apologies, but those may take another 5 years. Deaths, Marriages, and Births are common times for rebuilding the bridges that were burned years before. Mom, and boyfriend who supports her, are likely thinking that if you appeal to brother, say now that Dad is gone, he is the next generation head of the Surname family. And you were hoping he eould do the walk or dance or speeches, and that you will ask boyfriend to do the others, because he has been so good to you, maybe he will take the easy way out, a 2 minute speech and toast. And you can ask boyfriend for the rest. Or maybe he will want to do the walk. Nice, that mom's boyfriend let you know in advance he is willing, but supports Mom's hope brother will take this time at least for a truce, and maybe, or in the future, a positive relationship with you. Try it.

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You can always walk to the altar as an independent woman, lots of us do. But maybe, Dad gone, you would like to change how things are with brother.

Ask anyone you want or no one at all. It’s completely up to you! No one else should get to say who gets which role in your wedding.

It isn't your moms wedding. Politely thank her for the idea of having your brother, but explain that you feel most comfortable having the BF walk you down. (maybe even her and the BF?) I've seen cute pictures were you can attach a picture of your father onto your flowers in remembrance of your father! Sorry for the sticky situation and your loss!

Pick whoever you want it's not thier choice it's yours maybe have your mom walk you down

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I'm having my mom walk me down the aisle! So there's nothing wrong with going that route if you think that will make the situation more comfortable.

Your mom sounds like a good option. Or, go alone. No one is "giving you away", right? My soon-to-be husband escorted me down the aisle. We were walking towards a new life together and we loved the symbolism.