Who should be my bridesmaids?

You have the people closest and most meaningful to you as bridesmaids.

Your bridal parties do not need to match at all. Don't fill your party up with people that don't instantly come to mind when you think about this topic.

From what you've provided, I wouldn't suggest having his sister be your bridesmaid unless you are close.

1 MOH is 100% fine. For my previous wedding, I had 1 MOH and ex H had 1 BM and that was our party.

I do see siblings included often. If you wanted to include her... 2 would be fine too. You could have a groomsman on each arm for each girl.

FWIW, I have 3 bridesmaids and 2 groomsmen.

I had this very same problem about two years ago, I honestly didn't have but one person I could ask and would ask to stand by me on my big day. FH had countless. It kind of made me upset like... is there something wrong with me?

I realized that I didn't socialize and keep connections with people very well. I was kind of "out of sight, out of mind" mentality. I graduate from college, moved away to work and got so consumed with work and other things I put my social life on the back burner.

I realized I wanted a close group of friends, outside my relationship with FH. I did not go at it like "I need bridesmaids" if that's what you're thinking, at the time I wasn't engaged I just started reconnecting with old friends, going out with co-workers and meeting new people. It was exhausting for me at the time, I was so drained from work and everything else, but I met some really awesome people (guys and girls) that I now talk to on the phone at least once a week. Cont...

You actually have a lot of time to organize your wedding party. I suggest that you pick only close friends/relatives/co workers to be part of your wedding party who you feel comfortable with. Who do you envision standing next to you on one of the most important days of your life? Can you trust that person to be there for you? Are you confident that person can take care of an assigned task?

Don't make new friends just to fill out your wedding party. I think that's just weird.

When I got engaged, I suddenly realized I had lots of people to ask, and honestly too many I could ask.

I hope what I said doesn't offend you in any way, I don't mean to. If you have two close girl friends and those are the only two people that matter to you, standing up next to you on your big day, then I say go for it. Bridesmaids / groomsmen don't have to be even!

I have precisely the same problem. My brother's wife is my MOH, and after that I was stuck. So I've asked FH's friends' wives to be BMs. We're friendly and get along, but I wouldn't call them in the middle of the night in a crisis...

Pathetic, isn't it?

You can hire some actors! hahha...I'm kidding. I would only have who I want and not worry about filling space. I would just make it work.

Watch the movie, "I love you man"

I honestly think it is a good idea to ask you FH's sister. I think it would mean a lot to her and honestly, if my brother (if I had one) was getting married, I would expect to be asked to be in the wedding.

Do you have any female cousins?

Don't worry about having the sides match. I think the bridal party is about who you want standing by your side (literally and figuratively) on your wedding day. For me, that is only having people I care about in my bridal party, and it was really important for me to pick girls who my future children will recognize in my photos in that these people will stick with me through life. I really did not want to be looking back on my wedding photos and saying, remember that girl? It is up to you -- but, I think a lot of girls would agree you want women in your bridal party who will really be there for you. Random people or going out and making a quick friend aren't necessarily the people who will stick by you (those people are also more likely to give you a hard time about things.) In your situation, I think having your sister and FSIL is fine!

Asking my FH's sister is not a problem by me. She will be overly ecstatic and I'm sure plenty of help. I am just feeling down about how I just don't have the kind of friends I dreamed of having available for my wedding party. I do have plenty of time to find some, yet being a stay at home mom, I don't exactly get out much. Is there a match.com for finding friends? Lol.

Any cousins or nieces from wither side?

Haha Jennifer, my FH has the same problem. I had to really decide on BMs because I had too many options at first. FH on the other hand, is struggling to find people. He has about zero friends so I understand your situation.

I do actually have tons of female family members, yet I pretty much only see them on holidays and special occasions. It took me a while to admit that I pretty much have no girl friends, and even then I chose to do so on a pseudo anonymous site. I suppose I'll just have to give myself a push out into the social world and see what I can come up with.

Www.meetup.org I meet a ton of people on there. Truly.

You need mommy play dates!

Pick people who would be there for you. I picked all family members thinking they would be there for me. We are down to the last week dresses can be ordered two girls haven't done it after I told them 4 different times to remind them. The guys oh my don't have money for tux deposit $50-60 after knowing about it since Feb. Make sure they know if you plan on them paying for their own stuff dresses and tuxes so they aren't surprised. I wish now we only did MOH and BM and I would have changed the MOH. My bridal party sucks, minus 2 people, and I have 8. They are a pain.

Ugh- I went through so much heartache with this the last couple of weeks. I picked the girls I was going to ask to be my bridesmaids, but I had a bad feeling about it. I made the "will you be my bridesmaid" boxes for each of them, and a few days before I was going to give them to them the girl I was going to ask to be my MOH totally spazzed out on me (accused me of charging my drinks on her credit card while we were out one night - it was a misunderstanding. I handed the bartender my card and told him to charge everything on it. The bartender got confused and charged it to hers, but nobody realized until two days later. I sent her the $ right away but she still accused me of stealing. - ugh).

After all of that I realized that I was picking people who were not necessarily the best for bridesmaids, and who likely wouldn't be there for us throughout this process. I decided to change the plan and ask my aunt and cousins to be bridesmaids instead, since I know they will be cont...

Happy and excited to be a part of such a special time for us. Honestly, I breathed a sigh of relief (espcecially after reading all these horror stories), and now I'm happily making them new "will you be my bridesmaids" gifts.

I'm in the same boat.....I don't really have a close group of friends at least not these days but there are still a few people that I can count on. I wanted the sides to match as well but after a while I was like "F" it LOL who cares? you don't need to have an even number just have the people who are important to you. You have plenty of time but I wouldn't ask anyone until probably like 8 months from the wedding because sometimes people change. I chose my sister obviously for my MOH and I have 3 more but not sure about the last one still.