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Nicole
Just Said Yes May 2022

Who receives a bridal shower favor?

Nicole, on January 3, 2022 at 10:51 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 10
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Okay so I organized the favors for my shower, hosted by my mom and matron of honor.


My mother approached me before the shower suggesting to give bridal shower favors out to the women, who can’t make it to the shower but still sent a gift, at the wedding. I’m fine with that idea because I’ll have so many left over, however I told my mom that you usually don’t give favors out to those who don’t come to the shower even if they sent a gift. She called me selfish for thinking that way.
So my question is am I wrong for thinking favors are only for those who show? I will be sending thank you cards to everyone.

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Latest activity by Jacks, on January 12, 2022 at 7:34 PM
  • Jasmine S.
    VIP May 2022
    Jasmine S. ·
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    I think you're right, I've never heard of giving a favor to people who don't show up (especially if the favor is something perishable like cupcakes). Maybe your mom thinks this because it was common in the '80s or something. A thank you card should suffice.
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  • Sharon
    Super September 2021
    Sharon ·
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    Usually favors are only for people who attend the shower. I had a few people who couldn't attend at the last minute but gave gifts so I did give those people a favor. The people who sent a gift but were never planning to attend just got a thank you card.
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  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I think you're right ! i don't typically hear of people giving it to those who didn't come

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  • Cece
    Rockstar October 2023
    Cece ·
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    Typically only those who attend the shower get the favors. However, if you have a bunch left over, I’m sure those who couldn’t attend would appreciate the gesture Smiley smile
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  • Katherine
    Expert October 2021
    Katherine ·
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    I just sent thank you cards to people who sent gifts. Like people said most favors are cupcakes or chocolates of some sort
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar December 2022
    Michelle ·
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    Favors and door prizes are only for those actually attend the shower. Those who can’t make it may be given leftovers if there are any but they aren’t specifically set aside.
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  • Xauddina
    Dedicated April 2023
    Xauddina ·
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    I agree with most people here.. favors are for those that come & attend. I agree with CeCe.. if you have left overs then yes you can give them out !!

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  • E
    Devoted February 2023
    Elycia ·
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    Youre not wrong. But if you have some leftover I also dont think theres any harm in sending them. Its totally up to you though. Generally thank you cards are sufficient for people who send gifts but dont show.

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  • Patricia
    Just Said Yes September 2023
    Patricia ·
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    Oh my goodness. I'm just reading through the posts on the etiquette portion of this site and I am feeling overwhelmed! A bridal shower? There are so many things to plan!! Is this the same thing as a bachelorette party? When is it supposed to happen? Who organizes all these things? Eek!

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  • Jacks
    Rockstar November 2054
    Jacks ·
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    It can be a bit overwhelming for sure. Usually someone else hosts the shower and bachelorette in your honour. It’s not considered polite to throw your own. After a bit of reading around things will be clearer. Feel free to post questions. Welcome!
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