Who reads vows first?

My hubby read his first…we just went with how the pastor directed us so I guess that must be correct Not sure if there's a wrong answer though or a reason behind it. Getting close Nay!

For a wedding I think usually the guy goes first, as a symbol of initiating the relationship. Since you're already married, I don't know that there's a rule. And honestly, I can't remember if I've been to weddings where the girl went first. I was at a 'marriage celebration' (they had eloped a few months prior) a couple months ago, and I think she went first.

I went first. Not sure if that's against tradition.

Rachey - Yup. It's super close. 23 days

Jenn - Good point. We're married already. Not like it has to be "official"

JuneBride - lol

Matt - That would be me. I'm the crybaby so I will go first

Traditionally the groom reads first because he's inititating the marriage.

But you can go with whatever you want.

I read mine first - I just did what the Pastor told me to haha

Just looked over our ceremony script and FH reads first.

Thanks ladies and Matt. I'm going to read first

I'm reading mine first...for no other reason than the old adage "Ladies, first"

I think the tradition of the man saying vows first goes back to the day when if the bride said hers and then the groom backed out of the marriage, the "poor, delicate flower" would just die of embarrassment.

Nay, do what suits you best!

My FH is reading his first. I can't wait to hear his voice when he says "I do."

He does traditionally.

DH went first but that's just how the officiant had it go. We let him write the vows and did the 'repeat after me' way and it was great.

I don't think it matters honestly. When my couples ask me, I tell them to do rock;paper;scissors.

I think it's good for the cryer/more nervous person to go first....

I honestly don't remember, I think I did.

Spoke to Hubby last night and told him that there was a comment that the crybaby should go first and he pointed at me. lol

I read first for one reason only: I knew I would cry when FH started reading his and I didn't want to be so emotional that I couldn't read mine lol

Since our wedding ceremony will be less than 10 minutes, literally.... we are saying them together.

Since our wedding ceremony will be less than 10 minutes, literally.... we are saying them together.