Who plans the Bachelorette Party?

You can make some suggestions and give them ideas but this is NOT a night for you to plan....it also isn't a competition over who has the best night. Trust your friends to plan something for you and go along with it

You can make suggestions of ideas you'd like but then be gracious IF/WHEN they decide to host it.

My MOH is planning it. She's taking charge but she's already been tossing ideas around with me and the other girls. She wants to make sure it's a night I'll love without doing anything that I feel would be crossing a line.

What AndixLyn said. Though I'd also say...if they're talking about a night on the town with dinner and drinks...and you want a weeklong vacation...you should probably just be quiet and gracious for what they host. It's fine to say "I don't want a stripper." "I don't like x bar but I love y bar." "I'd like a Mexican place for dinner." I think it's different if they're adjustments than if it implies their budget/plans aren't good enough for you.

As an example so far my MOH has asked: do you want a stripper (god no), do you want just a night on the town here, do we need to go out of town to x, x or x place, do you want one great night or a weekend, and do you want a hotel, do you want to go home or do you want to crash at my place after. I have full confidence in her that whatever she puts together will be perfect for me.

Weddings where I have been a bridesmaid/MOH, I have worked VERY closely with the bride asking her what exactly she envisioned - a night out on the town, club night, a beach weekend, spa day, whatever. My one friend was very vague about what she wanted and it was VERY difficult to plan a bachelorette for her because we were afraid she would be disappointed! I think its good to be clear with your girls without being bossy. It will make their planning easier and you won't be disappointed. Keep in mind the budget that everyone is working with and other things going in their lives - for example, I would LOVE to go to Atlantic City for the weekend but I have multiple friends with young kids and I am realistic that's not going to work with their lifestyle now. My sister is my MOH so I will be working very closely with her about the plans!

I gave a few wants and don't wants (like strippers or strip clubs ) to my girls , I also told them I like Asian food ..I'm not worried about the rest, it will be awesome

YOU ONLY GET ONE. Hint at what you want