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Who pays for wedding party attire?

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katiekies, on February 20, 2022 at 12:02 AM

I've read some books/website that say it is up to the bride/groom to pay for the dresses/tuxes of the wedding party, but other sources say it's up to each individual to pay for their own attire ... I don't want to make a potential faux pas, but I also don't want to pay hundreds of dollars for other...

I've read some books/website that say it is up to the bride/groom to pay for the dresses/tuxes of the wedding party, but other sources say it's up to each individual to pay for their own attire ...

I don't want to make a potential faux pas, but I also don't want to pay hundreds of dollars for other people's clothing ... but I understand it's not really fair to ask people to be part of the wedding, and then make THEM pay either. *sigh*

Would it be okay to compromise - example: If I asked my MOH/bridesmaids to pick out any dress they want to wear, and then reimburse them SOME of the cost (like $50 each, or something)? Or is this tacky?

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Expert October 2021
Katherine · on February 21, 2022 at 1:29 PM
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Every wedding Ive been in and my own I paid for all my own things as well as my girls did.
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Michelle · on February 21, 2022 at 7:30 PM
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All expenses need to be discussed before you ask someone to be a bridesmaid/groomsman. But they are responsible for getting their own clothes. You can choose the colors as guidelines but the rest is on them.
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Keyra · on February 22, 2022 at 9:28 AM
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What I did was stay under $150 for dresses and ask them to pay $60 for makeup and if it is more I'll cover the rest. I gave them a hairstyle I wanted and I didn't care who did their hair. I did find someone who would do it for a certain price but they can use her or someone else. I bought the jewelry and the day of robes. The max they will pay for my one day is $500 but most paid $325. I found everything almost 9 months before my wedding giving them time to save for that and bachelorette party. I choose not to have a Bridal shower because we just had a housewarming the year before.
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Hanna · on February 22, 2022 at 2:08 PM
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I think it's fine to have the wedding party pay for their own attire as long as you discuss budget with them beforehand. I've been in 8 weddings and I've always paid for my own dress. I did cover the cost of my girls' hair and makeup though. As a bridesmaid, the bride has always paid for my hair and makeup as well.
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Josie · on February 22, 2022 at 7:50 PM
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I was in my friend's wedding last year and bridesmaids paid for their own attire + hair/Makeup, but she was flexible about what everyone could choose. We were given a color and told to pick whatever style we wanted in that color on Azazie (same website so all the dresses would be the same color). I liked Azazie because the prices are reasonable (my dress ended up being $89) and you're able to try on before you buy, but I've also heard great things about Birdie Grey.
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