Who pays for the tuxes?

The person renting if they’re an adult. Etiquette on minors is unclear, but I would offer to pay if I was asking a child to rent a tux for my wedding.

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One is in high school.

The other is a junior groomsmen.

Groomsmen typically act as ushers. Unless this is a black tie wedding, kids/teens can wear a regular suit. The person wearing the attire is generally responsible for purchase/rental. On the flip side, if the couple has a specific vision they are not willing to budge, then it is 100% the couple's responsibility to cover all expenses.


How old are these kids out of curiosity? Unless they are out on their own making their own way and have a ton of extra money set aside for occasions like this, parents need to be made aware of their children being asked to participate in the first place.

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One is high school age.

The other is elementary who is going to be a junior groomsmen.

Since they are both children, their parents should have been asked about their budget before you decided on attire, OR you should have offered to pay. Since it's too late to consult their budgets, you can just fix everything by offering to pay. To save money, let the ushers wear something they already own.

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I thought my fiance asked but this is how i found it out.

Being under 18, I would offer to pay or like others suggested - let them wear what they already own.

I honestly never know any friend or family of mine who had to pay for bridesmaids, groomsman, ring bearers, or flower girls attires. I and my sister were often asked to be the flower girls and my mom never had to pay a penny. But it really different from couple to couple.

View Quoted Comment I agree with this. There should have been better communication

I would offer to pay for the rental, especially since you’re wanting a certain look for them. I scored an absolutely gorgeous flower girl dress for $45 & paid for it to be dry cleaned so I spent around $75 total- we’re having her lil brother be the ring bearer. The parents have started shopping for an outfit for him.

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