Who pays for the Bridal Shower?

The Bride does not pay or host their own bridal shower. The host could be your bridal party or a relative like an aunt.

Hi CJ. So the bridal shower is an optional party that your BMs or another person in your life may choose to throw for you. You should not request it or throw one for yourself (not that you were suggesting that). Therefore, whoever is throwing the shower pays fully for it. The bride does not contribute financially since it is thrown for her in her honor. There is a tradition in some parts that the MOH hosts the shower and will call on the help of the other BMs for help, including financial. Both times that I was a BM I decided to take the initiative on the shower because the MOH didn't step up in both cases. I also got input from the brides' mothers. I worked with the other BMs to throw the showers because it is a lot of work and also can be costly. Traditional etiquette is that a family member of the bride like the MOB does not throw the shower because it is a conflict of interest since it's a gift giving party. However, many people don't worry about that rule anymore. My aunt ended up wanting to host my shower. If you are fortunate to have someone tell you that they want to throw you your shower, the only input that will be needed from you is a list of guests and what date works for you. You should only invite close family and friends who will also be invited to your wedding. This isn't the time to invite every female acquaintance because it will feel gift grabby to people if they aren't that close to you.

Whoever decides to throw you a shower. Mother, sister, relative, MOH.... It depends. You don't pay as you really shouldn't throw your own shower.

Cool thanks for the help everyone

What others said. Hope you didn't ask your bms or anyone to host .

In my case, my mom paid for most stuff and bms offered to help and chipped in .

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