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Doni
Just Said Yes September 2019

Who pays for nail salon visit and hairdresser for the wedding party?

Doni, on August 27, 2019 at 7:21 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 23
When the bride plans a nail salon visit for manis and pedis , who pays? Mother of bride? Each individual bridesmaid pays for her own?



Also what Is the proper etiquette for paying for a hairdresser the day of the wedding? Who pays for what? We are on a tight budget!!🥴

23 Comments

Latest activity by MrsHamm, on September 4, 2019 at 3:31 PM
  • Jessica
    VIP October 2019
    Jessica ·
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    If you going to require they have nails done and hair done a certain way, then truthfully it should be the bride who pays. At least that's what I've read is proper etiquette and my own personal opinion.
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  • Sarah
    Master September 2019
    Sarah ·
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    I agree with Jessica. If everything is optional and they can do their own, they can pay if they want professional services. If the bride is requiring hair and nails be done by a pro, the bride should be paying.
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  • DuttonSandersWedding
    Expert September 2019
    DuttonSandersWedding ·
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    From what I have read if you make it a requirement that they have their hair, nails or makeup done a specific way that they can't reproduce themselves (because lets be honest some ladies aren't good at those things, myself included haha) then it should be the bride who pays. I am ok with them doing all of their own stuff but I gave them the option of using my beauticians as well. If they chose to use my ladies then they paid for themselves. I do not have a specific look in mind though, just so they all look put together on the day of.
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  • Aubrie
    Dedicated September 2019
    Aubrie ·
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    I've been in weddings where I pay for everything, where everything is paid for, and where the bride gave us cash to cover half. I think as long as you're up front about it and give your wedding party a few pay periods to get it together you should be okay. I would probably do like the other suggestions and make it optional if you are expecting them to pay.
    We went under budget on a few things so are paying for hair/makeup/nails. There was another thread where I mentioned, as a past bridesmaid, I would prefer one of those services paid for versus the same amount of money put into a robe, tumbler and something monogrammed 😂
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
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    Why would your mother pay for a spa day that you planned for you and your bridesmaids? If the bride is requiring the bridesmaids to have their hair and nails done professionally or requiring them to wear them a certain way, she is responsible for the cost. If it's optional, they can pay for themselves.

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  • Chandra
    Master May 2019
    Chandra ·
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    My mom paid for the girls nails to be done but she also paid for most of the wedding.
    I left all professional beauty services up to them if they wanted them, but let them know they would be paid for if they chose to do them.
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  • Shireen
    Devoted September 2020
    Shireen ·
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    I want my ladies to wear their hair pulled back in a sleek ponytail and their nails a neutral color. I'm not paying for this but they don't have to use q lla professional either. If I required that then I woould pay the bill it gets costly being in a wedding party.
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  • Megan
    Super October 2020
    Megan ·
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    For manis and pedis, if not “required” I would say everyone pays on their own. (Last wedding I was in we actually took the groom out and paid for HIS mani.)

    For hair/makeup, if requiring it to be done professionally, you should pay. This is also just a very nice gesture. And as a PP pointed out, may be much more appreciated than a personalized tumbler.
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  • Karla
    Dedicated July 2021
    Karla ·
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    It’s not a forsure thing but I’m thinking I’ll pay for hair/makeup and they can get their nails done on their own time. (Most of them have a regularly nail routine anyway in their daily lives)
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  • Mrsbdg
    Champion August 2017
    Mrsbdg ·
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    If you require they have professional hair makeup and nails done you pay for it.

    If its optional, give quotes when asking if they want to participate so they can make an informed choice.
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  • Yoice
    VIP March 2019
    Yoice ·
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    If you’re requiring professional nails, hair and make up then bride is responsible for it. If you don’t want to cover the cost then you can suggest nail colors, hair styles and make up looks so they decide whether they want it done professionally or not.
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  • Sexypoodle
    Master October 2021
    Sexypoodle ·
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    If it’s YOUR way.... Then YOU pay.
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  • Kayla
    Dedicated October 2020
    Kayla ·
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    I’m taking my bridesmaids to get mani pedis the day before the rehearsal dinner and then to breakfast and to venues bridal suit for hair ( they are all great at makeup so no worries here) and I’m getting them earring/necklace sets. I am paying for all of that as my treat to them for putting time and money into my big day! Plus it’s a fun memory of time spent together!
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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    If the bride is planning the event, she needs to pay for everything. You can make it optional and let the girls pick their own look/style, then they can pay for it if they want to go. But if it's a required thing or you are requesting a look or style, you have to pay for it. I invited bridesmaids & moms to get their nails done with me, two bridesmaids & the flower girl & my fiance's stepmother went and picked whatever they wanted and I paid for all of it. I also paid for everyone's hair to be done however they wanted it (they could do it themselves too if they wanted to). If you're on a tight budget it's way easier to make things optional.

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  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    Mine paid for everything but that's because I also didn't require anything at all so it was all optional
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  • H
    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    I offered that they could get hair and makeup done professionally at the salon with me. They paid for their own services. All 4 got hair, and 2 got makeup. I got my nails done 2 days before the wedding, and I went with just my mom. I for the life of me couldn't tell you what my bridesmaid's nails looked like. I don't think a single person paid attention to that.
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  • A
    Expert August 2019
    Aliciabilly2019 ·
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    The bridesmaid etc pay for there own unless your making it a necessity then you should pay for it bc they might not be able to afford it either so it should be a choice...if its not then you then would be responsible to pay for it ...i told my girls i dont care if your nails are done just have them bare if your not doing nails and they knew that if they wanted their hair done they had to pay for it my girls know and are getting their hair done with me and paying for it themselves.
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  • A
    Expert August 2019
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    Yes i agree this is how it works as far as ive known since i was in my teens and been in weddings.
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  • J
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    Find out if they want to do the services, if they have to pay. You know your ladies. Most wedding parties I have been in, those who want fancy nails do them days in advance, and touch up each other's if necessary. Or do each other's to begin with. I honestly have never heard of any group together having a Mani or pedi done by a pro on wedding day itself. Too much time . And too much chemical stink getting into hair and clothing. ( And I have been in more than 60 weddings in 23 years ) . Hair, give them a choice, do your own, make your own arrangements, or pay one to arrange. Not everyone needs to do the same thing. Some people like to get ready in a group, the recent trend. But lots still do it the traditional way, where bride gets ready with a friend or family member, and all bm and gm get showered, dressed, own hair or shaving ( themselves, or their own pro) and do not get together until just before picture. Either they come from home or hotel room in gowns , or with gown in a bag to slip on last minute. See what each or your ladies wants to do. They may want everyone to do things in own separate bathrooms and berooms, with own SO. Or may want to hang out together 4-6 hours taking turns grooming.
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  • Madison
    Dedicated October 2019
    Madison ·
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    My mom made an appointment for me and my sister and her, and I invited my FSIL, Other BM and FMIL andnsaid they could get their hair done IF they wanted to but that it was not required.
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