Who makes the list! - Rules?

I told my fiance I'd like it if he kept his list to moreso current friends. I don't want him inviting people he used to talk to four years ago, for instance. As for family he actually didn't invite all of his either. I think he chose it based on whom he's close to. It can be kind of awkward to invite one and not the other but if you're tight on budget and space you just have to make hard choices

I told my FH side (since my parents are paying), that they got 100 guests and it was up to them to decide how that was split. I also told them that his friends come before theirs. By giving them a number and making them narrow down their list, it REALLY helped.

View Quoted Comment This is a really good idea.

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We just found it to be the easiest way so that I didn't have to get involved, they had more choices, but then they also had a solid number.

Our rule was to invite people we regularly keep in contact with. We are also inviting immediate family, aunts/uncles, etc. We didn’t invite cousins because it just would’ve been too much.

In terms of family, we decided that inviting in circles would be our best bet. We both invited our immediate families, grandparents, aunts and uncles, and first cousins.

For friends and coworkers we had two rules. We had to have seen or kept in regular contact with them in the last year. If we wouldn't invite them to a party at our house, we didn't invite them to our wedding.

We did immediate family (parents, grandparents, siblings) and aunts/uncles. And that's it for family. Neither of us have particularly large families, and we're not close with any cousins. He hasn't seen some of his aunts and uncles in 10 or so years, but it was easier for us to invite them all instead of picking and choosing.

We started with inviting immediate family such as our aunts and uncles then moved out to close cousins then close friends and so on until we reached our limit. I have a large family and he has a decent sized one too. I think I have like 40+ cousins (including some second cousins) as my mom is 1 of 11. We invited all of her siblings and their SO and he did the same on his side and worked out from there.