Who is responsible for paying for bridesmaids, mother of the bride etc

If you want them to have their hair and makeup done you should pay for it. I wanted to treat my girls that day so I let them choose whatever they wanted and paid for it, but they all would have been capable of doing it themselves. It really just depends if you want them to have a specific look.

If you're requiring it, you pay. And it's a nice gesture if you can pay for it! But if it's optional, they can pay if it's not in the budget.

If you are requiring that they have it done, then you should pay for it. If it isn't a requirement they are free to get it done on their own if they'd like.

If you are requiring hair/make-up a certain way, you pay for it. If it's an option that will be available but not required, they pay for it.

If there is a specific hairstyle or make up look that you want, you can kindly ask your party if they would like to utilize the services you are paying for. Since it's something that you want and are "requesting" you would be obligated to pay.

That being said, no one is obligated to have their hair or make up done in the way you specified and you should not force them to do so. They can always just do it themselves.

Definitely not required on my end, it's just an option if they want to get it done and if they did, should I pay for it. Thanks ladies!

I'm treating my girls to getting their hair done. It's a little extravagant of a expense but a lot of my BMs are from out of town and spending a lot of money to come. This is sort of a way I can make them feel great and say thank you!

What about the bridesmaids dresses?? Do u pay for these as well? Thanks everyone

If you don't require it, but you're letting them know they can have their hair done if they'd like then they can pay for it themselves. Just say "hey you can have your hair done at your own cost or do it yourself...totally up to you since I don't have a preference". As far as their dresses usually the BM's will pay for their own. In doing this you need to keep in mind that it's a dress they'll wear one time and so be mindful of their budget. If you want to "gift" them their BM's dress then you can do that. My FSIL bought her BM's their dresses as their wedding gift.

Bridesmaids should pay for their own dresses but make sure you ask each one individually of their budget so you know what dresses to start looking at.

I'm requiring certain makeup so I'm paying which I think is standard if requiring. I didn't pay for the dresses but did ensure they were affordable for everyone before ever deciding.

If you're requiring, you should pay. If your bridal party is flying in and spending quite a bit of money to be with you, paying is also a nice gesture.

One other thought is to subsidize some of the cost if you can't afford to pay for everyone. For instance just paying 50% or $20 for each girl would be nice.

I did not require certain hair/makeup although I am having a hair and makeup artist there and they can choose to use her if they want, I will be paying for it. Everyone wanted theirs done, I'm also paying for my mom to get her make up done (she wants to do her own hair) and I'm also paying for FMIL to get her hair and make up done. They day before I'm taking whoever wants to go out to get a manicure and pedicure, I'm paying for it.

They picked their dresses and paid for them, I specified a color at David's Bridal. They will also be paying for their shoes.

For gifts I plan on buying a necklace for them to wear the day of and I'm trying to find another thoughtful gift they will actually use, but haven't decided on one yet. All of my BM are traveling and I'm trying to make it somewhat affordable while still maintaining my budget, but I do want them to know I appreciate them standing up with me.