Who is paying (or paid) for the alcohol at your wedding?

Ill be happy to defend the opposite view on this subject - you are not in any way obligated to provide the means for someone to get drunk at YOUR biggest day. Please do not allow peer pressure here or anywhere else to force you to do something you yourself know to have no logical or ethical foundation. When you bring someone to your home for a dinner party, do any of your friends or family EVER offer to bring alcohol or food? If they aren't moochers, then of course they do. So this arguement that comes up that you shouldn't make your guests pay at a wedding because a house party wouldnt be appropriate to charge guests is based on nothing but peer pressure. Don't give in. You aren't required to, and if anyone complains then perhaps they should not be present at your biggest day. Drunken guests makes for less than wonderful memorable moments. Pay for a Champagne Toast, or even their first drink, but an everflowing untapped river of alcohol can consume your life savings. Not to mention vendors who could easily take advantage of that open tab / blank check to tack on a few extra thousand dollars based on greed and not actual inventory consumption. A final thought. If you were down to your last two items on your list, and they both cost $5000, and one was your bar tab and the other was your honeymoon, which would you place a higher priority on?

We are 50+ and having a wedding at the lake where we camp. We are having a caterer for the supper. How should we do alcohol? There is really no way to have an open bar, it is a small place at the lake. We are having about 70 people and paying for 3 or 4 extra camping sites. I think it's tacky to have byob. What does everyone think? There really is no big coolers/fridges for beer or anything like that.