Who is marrying you?

I'm sure it wouldn't hurt to ask. My grandparents pastor is marrying us. I've known him since I was a child though. I spent summers with my grandparents who are very religious so I've spent a lot of time at his church. I was nervous at first t ask him, but he happily accepted.

I was going to have my friend do it. He's fully ordained but since our plans and state have changed, he won't be able to do it for us anymore. Now I have no idea who is going to do it and it kind of sucks.

We have an officiant!

I don't think it would hurt to ask. Personally, my FH and I are having one of my co-workers (and a good friend) preform our ceremony. In my state a notary can marry a couple, and he's a notary (as am I) because we have to be for work. I will say, however, weddings that I have been to where the couple did not have a friend or family member marry them did not have the officiant or pastor attend the reception, even though they were invited to stay. It would be nice to invite your pastor if you decide to have him marry you, but don't be surprised if he does not stay for the reception.

I would ask him and SO to attend, If he chooses not to come, that is on him. As for the drinking, I went to a Catholic wedding and at the reception the priest had a few beers and was lighting up the dance floor!!! Lots of clerics drink socially if their religion allows it.

You can absolutely ask him to officiate. Our pastor does weddings (and attends receptions) all the time that serve alcohol and may play music they wouldn't normally listen to. A good pastor is one who understands it is not their place to judge.

However, our pastor is probably not the one marrying us. There is an older gentleman who is a former member of our church that we just ADORE. Joe has been like a grandfather to me over the years, and we planning to ask him tonight if he will do the honors.