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Just Said Yes December 2016

Who is invited to the rehearsal dinner?

G is engaged, on July 29, 2016 at 12:40 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 17
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Hello Everyone!

We are having a destination wedding in Las Vegas, so all guests will be coming from out of town. We have a pretty standard size wedding party (5 bridesmaids, 5 groomsman, 1 flower girl, 4 parents, 2 grandmothers). Four of the wedding party members are dating people who are invited to the wedding. One of them is my cousin's boyfriend who I am very close to. The other 3 girls I am not close to and honestly do not care for. All of these significant others know guests who are not in the wedding party and who are not invited to the rehearsal dinner. (Ex: Groomsman's sister is invited to the wedding and is very close the the girlfriend. So they can hang out while the groomsman is with us)

Do I have to invite the significant others to the rehearsal dinner? Or can I just have my wedding party there and then let the SO's know they can meet us afterwards for drinks? (Since it's not like they will be alone in the hotel room waiting around)

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Latest activity by Portlandia13, on July 29, 2016 at 1:25 PM
  • SleepytheDwarf
    Master June 2017
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    Invite the SOs please.

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  • MrsOtoBe
    VIP October 2017
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    I think you should invite the SO's. They can make the decision if they want to attend or hang out with other people they know.

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  • RiceAndRoses
    VIP October 2016
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    You should invite the SOs.

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  • becomingburnett2017
    Devoted June 2017
    becomingburnett2017 ·
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    Invite SOs.

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  • Mrs. Sasswood
    Master October 2016
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    Yes, invite the SO's. Put yourself in their shoes. If they have the same feelings about you and decline, that's on them. But you need to be an adult and deal with them as such.

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  • Going to the chapel
    Master July 2017
    Going to the chapel ·
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    You need to invite the SOs.

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  • BlueHenBride
    Master March 2017
    BlueHenBride ·
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    Yes, definitely invite the SOs

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  • AAK
    VIP September 2017
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    In this case I would invite the SO's just because it is a destination wedding and would be nice for them to come along. Our rehearsal will be in FSIL back yard the weekend before (because we are getting married on a Friday) and it won't be a huge thing so we are just having the bridal party because everyone lives fairly close. I also wanted to keep it to just the bridal party (and our parents) because that's when we will be giving our gifts to them.

    ETA: After thinking this over and reading everyone's suggestions maybe I'll invite the SO's just to be safe..

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  • MrsA
    Master October 2015
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    Parents and those in your wedding with their SO's. Anyone else is a courtesy invite.

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  • OG Brittany
    Master December 2016
    OG Brittany ·
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    SO's of the BP are always invited to the pre-wedding festivities (ie: Rehearsal dinner, night on the town, etc...)

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  • GreatNewHites
    Super September 2016
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    Definitely significant others. Sorry!

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  • G
    Just Said Yes December 2016
    G is engaged ·
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    This was my very first post on this site and online! You all respond so quickly! Thanks!

    I guess I will be inviting the significant others!

    If they are invited to the rehearsal, what are they supposed to do? Just sit and watch us?

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  • Karen P
    Super May 2017
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    Pretty much. My FH played on his iPad during the rehearsal for my MOH's wedding when I was her MOH. ETA: or you drive separately and he'd meet us at the restaurant but we were lazy.

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  • Lynnie
    WeddingWire Administrator October 2016
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    Hi G is engaged, welcome to WW! Make sure to upload a picture for your avatar (instead of the default icons) so that we can get to know you and tell you apart from all the other posters.

    I've done both as the girlfriend of a groomsman. I've sat and watched the rehearsal with the other SOs - best case is if there is a bar on the property so they can all go hang out the bar together while everyone else rehearses. Or if there was transportation and another pick-up provided I've been with the SOs in the "later van" that takes us directly to dinner!


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  • Cheryl
    Devoted February 2017
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    My wedding planner says- only the wedding party and significant people are to attend like the Mother of bride and her SO if he is her escort down the isle.

    Just saying what I was told.

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  • SleepytheDwarf
    Master June 2017
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    I don't think they need to be at the rehearsal, but they do need to be invited to the dinner.

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  • Portlandia13
    Super April 2017
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    We're doing bridal party, bridal party SOs, immediate family (including grandparents and one aunt who is travelling), we'll also include the flower girls and their parents.

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