Who is in charge of the rehearsal dinner?

You're in charge and FH and typically you pay. Although were just having a run through at a church and then going out to eat afterwards and if some of the wedding party wants to come that's cool...but they'll be paying for themselves.

Groom's parents traditionally pay for the rehearsal dinner. Bride's parents traditionally pay for the wedding.

FH and I are in charge of our rehearsal but our DJ/MC will be there as well as our DOC. We are also paying for the rehearsal dinner.

“Traditionally” grooms parents do but nowadays most couples pay for it themselves. If you are rehearsing you need to treat your wedding party to dinner. It can be as cheap and simple as pizza and beer but please don’t have them pay for themselves like a pp suggested. If budget is tight it’s totally fine to skip a rehearsal and rehearsal dinner.

Traditionally the groom’s parents will pay. But often just because it’s tradition doesn’t mean it has to be done that way

Traditionally the grooms family pays for the rehersal dinner. I dont know who is considered in charge but it they are paying I would say they are. My FH and I are paying for the rehersal dinner so we in charge so I dont know too much about it the traditional way.

Grooms parents. My FMIL and FFIL already told us they were paying for it. My FH and I are paying for 99% of the wedding ourselves

Rehearsals are optional, but if you have a rehearsal you NEED to pay for dinner for your guests. It's a way of thanking them for giving up more of their time for your wedding.

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Your absolutely right, whoever pays gets a say. The more they pay, the more they get a say. My fiancé's parents offered to pay 100%. I happily let them plan it too to keep them out of my and my fiancé's business planning the wedding. They may be going overboard on the planning but whatever keeps them out of my hair. It's also the step-FOG's birthday so there may be a surprise birthday cake in the mix. Price to pay for them to stay away from the wedding day planning. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

"Traditionally" the groom's parents pay for the rehearsal dinner. However it's best to sit down with them and make sure of what they are expecting as well. I sat down with my future in-laws and fiance to decide where we wanted to have the rehearsal dinner and the guest list. Then they decided that they were going to pay as tradition since my parents are helping with the majority of the wedding venue cost. It's best to check with all parties involved so that you're on the same page. You'll have a lot less stress that way.

Do not ask the grooms parents to pay, do not sit down with them to discuss this unless they ask you to sit down and discuss.

plan to pay on your own or skip the rehearsal and dinner.

Grooms parents normally pay. My parents want to pay for it. We are just getting pizza for everyone

I don’t think the tradition really matters because most people don’t actually follow tradition anymore. Lots of people pay for their own weddings and rehearsals. Or in some cases whichever parents are able to help will help however they can, regardless of whose parents they are. Why should the bride’s family pay for the wedding and the groom’s pay for the rehearsal? That’s ridiculous because the wedding is way more expensive. We were lucky that our parents paid for most of our wedding (and we paid for our own rehearsal brunch), but they just have us a certain amount of money, so no one was actually in charge of anything in particular and we made all the decisions.

We are paying most likely pizza and a few pitchers of beer.

My fiancée and I are paying for ours. We just rented out a picnic shelter at a park and will do a catered lunch there.

Traditionally grooms parents pay, but also traditionally brides parents pay for the wedding... these days it’s a free for all... so to speak... neither set of parents is contributing to our wedding financially.