Who goes to a venue viewing?

For the first one, it was FH, me, my mom and dad, MOH, and a BM. My FH went with my parents to view a few more because I’m in a different state. The last venue viewing we did it was my MOH, me, FH, my parents, and FMIL! I think they’re probably used to a lot of people going because a lot of people might contribute to the cost. If you do bring a ton of people remind them that It is your wedding and for them to be respectful of that. When we went every time I would try and ask a question I would get interrupted by my dad or FMIL. I left without asking a ton of super important questions because of it and I was very frustrated.

We went venue looking over a two day span since we were looking for a venue 3+ hours from where we live. Day one just my husband and I went to look. Day two his mom and my mom joined us. We stayed at his mom's house the first night since she lives about an hour from where we were looking and she made us feel guilty for not inviting her so we included her. I felt it was only fair then to invite my mom. When we were meeting with the event coordinators we met most of them in their offices then toured the venue. Most of the offices were small with seating for only two people so our moms stood the entire. They probably weren't expecting extra people. To me, six people seems like a lot of people to look at venues.

I think it's perfectly acceptable to want both your parents there and having 6 adults isn't too many, I would check with the venue first to make sure they can accommodate you all in terms of food (if you're tasting at all?).

I’m sure venue coordinators have seen more than most of us can imagine. I don’t think that both sets of parents is too much. If you think it could be overwhelming, maybe just you and your FH could look first then take your parents back to the venues you’re seriously considering.

I took my parents, my fiancé and my kids lol my parents are paying for it so I wanted them to have a say, my fiancé doesn’t say much so I really just wanted to see his reaction to the places, and I couldn’t get a sitter sometimes so I took the kids lol oh and my brother went with us a few times but that’s just because he actually liked all of the places we were looking at anyways lol

It's totally fine to have both of yall's parents there! We had my parents and FH's parents with us. It's totally normal to bring family from both sides.

Just give the coordinator a heads up on the number of people coming so that they can be prepared. I worked at a golf resort and when we did site visits we showed the couple around on a golf cart because the property was so spread out. It was important to know the head count so we can have a large enough cart or multiple carts ready to go.

I wouldn't invite any more than that. Sometimes too many opinions can cloud your own. Venue searching was one of my favorite parts.. have fun!!

I think having both sets of parents is totally acceptable. When you confirm your appts I would just mention how many people are coming with you.

The first appointment was me, FH, and FSIL but she seemed to be very controlling about it all which annoyed me. The second appointment was me, FH, a groomsman, and an usher (weird I know.) We were looking in our college town that we no longer live in but they do so they came along so we could catch up. We ended up choosing that one. They don't care who you bring though. Take who you want. The more people, the more opinions... especially women. I had no issues with any of the guys. lol

I took my parents, my FMIL, and then it was my FH and myself. I don’t think taking both sets of parents is really that much!!

It's not too much. We went solo first and then took our parents back to the 1 we really wanted.

I don’t think it’s too much but keep in mind that the more people, the more opinions. We wanted to bring both sets of parents to all (or as many as possible) of the venue viewings. Neither father really cared so it was my FH and our mothers.

The first venue we looked at (at my mothers insistence) was wayyy too much after we sat with the venue coordinator and priced it out, and neither my FH or I liked it. But the mothers got carried away and were gushing about the stonework and the wood floors the whole time. 🤦‍♀️ So just be prepared for them to possibly not be as helpful as you thought they might be.

The most successful trip was us going, just us two, then FaceTiming our mothers from the venue.

Nope. We invited both of your parents. FILs declined. My parents showed. Went perfect. I definitely wanted outside opinions for the venue because we can get so excited about the venue that we may miss some important details. So, I had mom and dad their to think while I sat in awe lol.

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Both sets of parents should be fine, but I especially think if any parent is helping pay it'd be a sweet gesture to include them in the decision!