Skip to main content

Post content has been hidden

To unblock this content, please click here

Katie
Devoted September 2017

Who gives me away?

Katie, on January 16, 2017 at 3:54 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 16

My dad is not at all a part of my life and I refuse to have him at the wedding, and my mom doesn't agree with my religious beliefs so she won't be attending the ceremony. So I don't know what to do when they ask "who gives this woman to be married" or whatever. Who would answer that question?

16 Comments

Latest activity by Tam, on January 17, 2017 at 1:32 AM
  • Van Pear
    VIP January 2017
    Van Pear ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    You don't have to have that part in the ceremony. I walked alone and then met DH to walk the last few steps together. It was important to me to not have someone "give me away" and I wanted to symbolize me presenting myself to my groom.

    • Reply
  • Lynnie
    WeddingWire Administrator October 2016
    Lynnie ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    Easy - you can completely skip this part and take it out of the ceremony!

    • Reply
  • Celia Milton
    Celia Milton ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    No one has to give you away. You could ask a family member to support you, but that doesn't have to be your dad.

    • Reply
  • Jimie
    Savvy December 2021
    Jimie ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    We are eloping. I'm walking down the aisle to the beach myself. Present yourself as a strong independent person who's entering into a partnership with another strong individual.

    • Reply
  • BohoRN2017
    Expert November 2017
    BohoRN2017 ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    Both of my parents are walking me but no one is giving me away or "presenting me". Once we are at the end of the aisle we'll hug and they'll sit down.

    • Reply
  • Katie
    Devoted September 2017
    Katie ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    Thank you all for the help! I guess I've just heard that line at every wedding I've been to and they've all had their dads there to give them away, so I'll just cut that out of my day Smiley smile

    • Reply
  • chaos05
    Super October 2017
    chaos05 ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    In order to be married, you need you and your spouse and the officiant. The rest of that stuff isn't necessary. You can do the things you'd like to have at your wedding! As long as it includes catering a meal and serving alcohol to your guests Smiley winking

    • Reply
  • Dreamer
    Master May 2013
    Dreamer ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    No one says that anymore. Plus, you can walk with your mother, alone, with your hubby - or meet him half way, etc.

    • Reply
  • Crescent1874
    VIP March 2016
    Crescent1874 ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    I had my brother and my Papa, but I was adamant that the minister not say who gives this woman to this man. I would have walked alone had it not meant so much to my brother and my Papa. You don't have to be given away!

    • Reply
  • UnderTheJuneWillows
    VIP June 2016
    UnderTheJuneWillows ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    I presented myself for marriage...willingly, on my own accord. I was nobody's token to be given. Granted, my father passed in 2012, but I would have felt the same way regardless.

    Nobody has to give you away, and you can completely cut out that part.

    • Reply
  • Christy
    Super September 2017
    Christy ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    I'm planning on having my brother in law escort me currently. He's not a groomsman at this point but he and I are friends and my sister is my matron of honor.

    • Reply
  • Young halloween bride
    Expert October 2017
    Young halloween bride ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    My FH and I are walking down together. We are firm with that decision despite my mom and her bf throwing a royal fit about it

    • Reply
  • Renee
    Expert January 2017
    Renee ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    I told our officiant to leave that part out. We are also skipping the traditional vows in favor of something a little more personal. So exciting, best wishes!

    • Reply
  • Holly
    VIP June 2018
    Holly ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    Skip that portion

    • Reply
  • TIFFANY
    Super July 2017
    TIFFANY ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    U don't have to have anyone give you away. In your case you are just walking down the aisle

    • Reply
  • T
    Expert December 2019
    Tam ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    Noone has to give you away! If you really want someone to walk with you, choose whomever you feel closest and comfortable with. Someone who has had major impact on your life.

    • Reply

You voted for . Add a comment 👇

×
WeddingWire celebrates love ...and so does everyone on our site! Explore how we embrace diversity

Groups

WeddingWire article topics