Who gets whom gifts?

I don't think so personally. We got both sets of parents photo books after our pictures came back.

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It's not required or expected. If you do give them, have them from both of you.

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Not required to give them gifts. You can do whatever you both feel the most comfortable with. Some couples give both sides of parents a gift from them both, others only get gifts for their parents, and some get gifts for the in-laws.

I think we're just going to gift them a nice framed picture from our engagement photos, then later replace it with a wedding photo. We'll also include a nice hand written note.

My parent gifts - from me
His parent gifts -from him
Groomsmen - from him Bridesmaids - me However we both paid for everyone’s gift

I got nice thank you cards for everyone, and I picked up the attire tabs for both sets of parents as a thank you

We just got them gifts from us jointly

Your own wedding is a time for you to receive gifts, not give them, traditionally. Giving gifts to bridesmaids when you ask them, giving gifts not thank you notes to those who do parties for you ( which may be as many 12 cohostesses), getting robes or shirts or other things for getting ready or the bach, and presents to parents are all new add-ons . Pushed by the industries that profit. ( Notice the new suggestion lists for sister in law presents on WW? Really.)
It is traditional to give a single individual gift to the members of your WP at the end. And share pictures with your parents after the event. And give gifts to your parents on Mother's and Father's Day, their birthdays, anniversaries and holidays.

You all have say something good but in my own aspect it is always good to get both parents gift to show them some appreciation and fir standing by you it is always good to show some good sign and that will really helps you a lot and you both can get the gift and present it to them after that also brings union between you couples I remember my wedding after everything I had to plan a summer holiday for both family and that is what I help people to do it really fun and everyone gets to know each other better it always bring the family together

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Hello Yolanda:
I totally agree with Judith. You can show them your appreciation whenever you want but it's not a good idea to give gifts to the parents/in-laws on the wedding day in my opinion ... because you only throw a wedding once. The wedding is about you and your other half, not about them, this is something you need to remember.

However: there's nothing wrong with this IF YOU AND YOUR GROOM REALLY WANT TO GIVE THEM SOMETHING ... but don't do it because a couple did it at a wedding you attended or because someone told you that "you have to" ...

Your marriage is not made valid or unvalid because you did or didn't give a gift to your parents/in-law on your wedding day.

You don't have to it's not a requirement.


I bought his parents something small. I got his dad cigars and his mother a bracelet it says, "mother of the groom" on one charm and the other charm says "thank you for raising the man of my dreams". And then we together are going to take them out for dinner. They are doing a lot for our wedding so we want to let them know with gifts we appreciate all the work. He is getting my parents something but hasn't figured out what yet.