Who gets gifts?! And who gives them.

We did bridal party gifts and a gift for our officiant. We did not do parent gifts. We figured we would do nice photo books after the wedding (One day I swear)... but it would have caused conflict with our bizarre family dynamics and honestly we were running a little too low on funds that close to the day to get something nice for our parents.

Also, I know a lot of people who did something more personal and less expensive like an embroidered hanky from the brides dress for dad etc. Notes/cards etc.

View Quoted Comment Amen to bizarre family dynamics!! Both parents are divorced. My dad is dating my mom is single. FH's parents are both remarried and it just gets messy. My dad is paying for a huge chunk of our wedding..maybe we can gift him something in private.

I've never heard of giving a gift to your spouse's parents. I always thought the bride and groom together gave a gift to each set of parents.

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Sounds familiar! My parents are divorced. My dad and his wife really want to be friends with my mom and my mom carries an unhealthy amount of hate so that's always hard to navigate. His mom threatened not to come for a few months before and I think brought his dad's ashes in a plastic bag.... I don't have 100% confirmation on that but I'm also not asking.

My dad was the only one who helped to fund our wedding and we appreciated his offer but we decided it would be too awkward to gift just him. We made sure to spend extra time and are trying to do other nice things for him after the fact.

My FH is giving a necklace to my mom and an engraved pen to his dad. I am giving a necklace to his mom and an engraved money clip to my dad. We wanted to do get little presents with a letter for them and discussed how best to divvy that up. I wouldn’t say what we’re doing is “normal” or “typical” by any means but it’s what felt right to us.

View Quoted Comment I may just gift a round of golf or something to my dad and his gf after the fact. Neither of my parents speak to each other so it wont be awkward as he wont care to tell my mom ha! As for FH well cross that bridge closer to the date.

We did gifts for our wedding party, as well as our parents. We did a bag for each of our 4 total parents - inside each was a personalized handkerchief, a picture frame (to be filled with a wedding picture), and a separate note from each of us. We gave all of these out at the rehearsal dinner, but not in front of everyone -- privately, while people were eating.

We are having a destination wedding. We are paying for it. I got my mom a pretty necklace, earring and ring set. We got his mom nice earrings. We paid for his parents hotel and flights, my dad and sisters hotels, my dads flight, gave my little sister and each of his 3 sisters 200$, paid for one of his sisters flights, gave my MOH multiple gift cards throughout this wedding process, and giving each bridesmaids necklaces, not to mention we paid for all their dresses. So I think we are done with gifts. FH is also getting stuff for his groomsmen. I think we have this culture where we have to gift everyone, it's not but it's not necessary. When I was BM for a few of my friends weddings, I didn't really want or need the gifts. I think i would have rather had my dress paid for lol.

Oh yea we are also doing gift bags.

View Quoted Comment Wow! You're a good bride! Im sure thats all very appreciated. Destination weddings can be hard on guests! I am considering paying for dresses depending on what I decide on and then doing a minimal thank you gift the day of.