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Who gets flowers for the wedding?

Amanda, on August 31, 2020 at 3:10 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 6

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Who gets flowers for the wedding? My fiancé and I decided we didn't want to do boutonnieres for him or the groomsmen, just a nice pocket square cause we thought it looked nicer. Plus our friend and officiant is allergic so the less flowers up there, the better. I would do my bouquet and the bouquets for the bridesmaids. But then my stepmom is sending me links saying it's customary for moms and grandmothers to get a corsage or small bouquet, then boutonnieres for fathers and grandfathers. Would it be weird for everyone else to have flowers and my hubby and his guys not to? What did y'all do?

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Latest activity by Amanda, on August 31, 2020 at 4:41 PM

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Melle · on August 31, 2020 at 3:15 PM
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You can do pocket squares for the fathers and grandfathers too if you want to make it look more cohesive . I do think a small corsage for the moms and grandma’s would be nice.
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Emily · on August 31, 2020 at 3:17 PM
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I think it’s considered traditional to have those extra flowers for the parents, grandparents, etc. but we’re skipping them to save money and my mom said she didn’t want to have something to carry or around her wrist anyways. If you’re interested in doing them though, go for it! I don’t think it will look weird and I’m guessing the other guests won’t even notice.
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Chrysta · on August 31, 2020 at 3:21 PM
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I agree with PP, having the fathers and grandfathers wear matching pocket squares would be a nice touch. I think corsages for the mothers and grandmothers is an old tradition. I remember seeing this in pictures from my parent’s wedding. However, I have not seen anybody do this at any of the weddings I’ve been to in a very long time. By no means do I think it is necessary. We won’t be doing them at our wedding. We also won’t be doing boutonnieres for the guys because none of them really wanted them.
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Private User · on August 31, 2020 at 4:14 PM
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We're doing the exact same thing you are. My fiance didn't want a Boutonniere for himself or his groomsmen. But I am getting one for my dad and his dad. I am also getting them for my grandmother's and his mom. The groomsmen will have pocket squares which match my bridesmaids dress colors.
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Jana · on August 31, 2020 at 4:25 PM
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Traditionally bride/smaids get bouquets, groom/smen and fathers of the couple get boutonnieres. The mothers get corsages. Some couples choose to give corsages/bouts to grandparents as well. But people follow their personal preference as well.

Most florists are aware of allergies and work around them. For example, I am miserably allergic to pollen in cut flowers out of the garden, but the same flowers from a pro florist don't bother me in the least since they don't have the pollen that triggers allergies. Ask the florist about what they are able to do.
A pocket square would work. Do whatever works best for you, not what is expected by others.
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