Who gets escorted?

No one HAS to be, but my grandmother was hurt that she wasn't escorted at my cousin's wedding, so it's important to me to do at mine.

Typically I think grandmothers, mothers, and bridesmaids. We don't have designated ushers but our GMs are walking the grandmothers and moms down the aisle, and bridesmaids are walking by themselves.

Do you have groomsmen this could fall to?

I think it's traditional to have an usher (or someone) escort grandparents to their seats. I'm pretty traditional so I'd say yes. And it sounds like she'd be pretty upset if you didn't. You don't necessarily need ushers, is there family member that can walk her to her seat?

Traditionally - Grandmothers are escorted by an usher with the Grandfather following behind. Or you could have your grandfather walk with your grandmother and then be seated.

I'm all for giving your grandparents a place of honor.

Our grandmothers were escorted by ushers. But you don't HAVE to do anything

Grandmothers and mothers should be escorted if they wish to be. Do you have any groomsmen? Siblings or cousins not in the wedding? An uncle? It's not a big role to escort her, so I don't think you're too late to ask.

We have 3 groomsmen and 2 of which are walking the moms down. My issue is I don't want them walking up and down the aisle a million times because my grandmother just can't pick a seat. No other grandparent has complained. I feel like she should have thrown her fit about this months ago, not 5 days before!

You're totally right that she should've said something by now, but she may have just assumed you had planned an escort for her. It's probably less of a picking a seat thing and more about tradition.

Is your grandfather (her husband) still living? He could serve as an escort. You could frame it as "we wanted to give an opportunity for a nice photo of you two walking down the aisle." Or if he's not, I'm sure your third groomsmen wouldn't mind or another family member could do it.

I don't think that any guest of honor (moms, grandmas, aunts) should walk up alone. I've had grandmas walk together, cousins and uncles too. They can be escorted before the formal processional starts too; usually that's when grandparents come in.

It's really a small kindness.

Is your grandfather alive? They can walk down the aisle together and take their seats at the very start of the processional. It's not a big deal, but it will really matter to her.

Have a groomsman walk her down if it makes her happy

At my niece's wedding my mom and her husband's grandmother were each escorted by their grandsons, who were both 14 at the time.

Will any of her other grandchildren be attending? We are having cousins walk each of their respective grandparents to their seats and into the reception.

My grandfather is the officiate (has experience, wasn't just for me) and the way the venue is makes it hard for them to walk out together. I'm going to try to figure it out I'm just annoyed it's a big deal this close.

This is pretty typical. I'm doing it. One of my brothers will walk my grandmother and one of FHs cousins will walk his grandmother.

It's easy enough to arrange and it'll make my grandma so happy. It's not entirely necessary, but it's so worth it for me.

@Sara Please realize how lucky you are to have grandparents at your wedding. This isn't a big deal; it's a traditional courtesy extended to honor the women who are important in your life. I'd do anything to have my grandmother here to complain. This is an easy concession to make her feel more comfortable at your wedding.

I figured it out. I'm not mad she wants escorted, && I am blessed to have most of mine and FH grandparents there, it's just the big fit she threw so close to the wedding when she's known she's cared about it way before. But it's all good now, grandma will be walked to her seat and she'll forever be happy.

I am probably in the minority here, but we are not having grandmothers escorted to their seats. They have their flowers to designate them as special guests and they will have special seats but we are not having that be a part of the ceremony. FHs paternal grandmother cannot make it down the long church aisle as she has medical issues. She will be in her seat already after using the handicap entrance to the church. And my paternal grandfather will be already seated for the same reasons. There is also some family dynamic at play that having that escorting would make some members of the family uncomfortable. Our mothers will be escorted to their seats but that is all for us.

You don't have to designate an "usher" for her. But why not just choose a family member who's not already involved in the party or procession somehow. Or just a groomsman who will do the honors. Seating grandma doesn't require a necessarily special or designated person but she should have a escort.