Who gets 'and guest' added to their invite?

It depends on your budget. If you can afford to grant every single person a plus one, then it's a nice gesture. It's not required though. I also wouldn't allow children (16 year olds) to bring a girlfriend or boyfriend.

ETA: I mention budget because your guest count can't increase significantly with all the additional plus ones.

We did it for anyone that was 18 and over. Even Grams if we could

Any guests that are in a relationship should be invited as a social unit.

ie: Mr. Smith and Ms. Anderson

It'd be kind to invite FBIL gf.

Any single friends is up to you and your budget.

It's really up to you. We added plus ones for just about anyone not in a relationship. The only people I excluded were the recent widow/widowers. I thought it would be insensitive.

We budgeted plus ones for everyone we knew was in a relationship, as well as single guests who we thought might bring one.

@FMR2018 We will add SO's to the invite if the guest has one

@Erin I agree with it being insensitive to add it for widows/widowers

I did this for everyone except my daughters friends she invited, grandma and a few others my fh determined to not be-

But for the most part I gave plus one to pretty much all- if people want to bring a date that's cool

Gave everyone a plus one who is in high school and up. Relationship or not.

For important people like a FBIL they should be allowed a plus one. If you know someone has a serious SO they should be allowed a plus one also. You do not have to allow every guest a plus one of it is going to break the bank. It's your wedding invite who you want.

Say that you're inviting a family with grown adult kids, and they have SOs? It's a family of 6 plus at least 3 other SOs, that's a lot!

@ariel Date twin!!! I thought the same thing. My aunt and uncle have 4 adult children. 2 are in serious relationships. I extended plus one to the others to seem fair. But it does add up fast!

Most of my guests are in a relationship, so automatic social unit, they were invited. Bc my guest list is 90% family if not more it means everyone will know plenty ppl. at the wedding. The other 10% are friends from the same circle- law school or church. So unless you are either not blood, fam, or from church, I extended a +1. But from recollection only 1 friend got a + 1 (she knows the circles but doesn't belong to them) I wasn't about to give a whole bunch of single ppl. random +1s we rather allocate budget elsewhere. My FH hates weddings filled with ppl the bride and groom don't know and I agree. For what we pay per plate, he is triple right.

If venue and budget permit its definitely nice to extend +1's to single guest.

All of our single guest our over 18 received an & guest after their names

We only added "& guest" on a few people's who we knew were dating someone and of we knew they were single we did not add it. But that being said we still got a bunch of people RSVPing for two either way. I feel like these days people just kind of "assume" they can bring a date to weddings. But I could be wrong, who knows.

I think FBIL should be allowed too bring a guest. Even though he's 16. Just seems like the right thing if you are extending random +1. You probably know his girlfriend.

Everyone on our guest list got a plus one. Wether or not their relationship has been "serious" or not.

It does add up extremely fast. We took care of family first then, talked about coworkers.

Personally, I didn't want to invite my office and just have them with no plus ones. So we chose not to invite work because with everyone including plus 1's we are looking at an extra 24 people. & that's insane to us

A missive from the land of 200+ plates. Every person in a relationship gets a guest, and if you don't even know them well enough to know this? They don't belong on the list themselves.

If you want to give your truly single friends a date? You can if you feel like it but you might not if you don't want to pay for a bunch of random strangers to be at your wedding, which ideally is a life changing and intimate celebration with the people you know and love.

Your BP should all get the courtesy of a guest, and grandma too.

That anyone would assume they can bring a guest (or more people than you invited) is a mystery to me. Get used to saying, "We're sorry, our guest list is fixed and we cannot afford to add anyone else."

We're not giving everyone a plus one for budget reasons. Anyone that has a SO is being invited with their specific name on the invitation. We are giving out plus ones to some that may not know a lot of people at the event so that they feel comfortable. The BP is all getting plus ones.

I did it for everyone over 18. I even included "and guest" for my almost 90 year old great aunts. I honestly was hoping they wouldn't bring anyone but 1 of them said she wants to bring her daughter. I haven't sent invites yet but included the and guest on the STD and plan to on the invite too. All of my under 18's are well under 18 so I didn't have to worry about whether or not to include an and guest. I'm not really sure what I would do for a 16 year old with a girlfriend. I most likely would not include a 16 year old's SO though. I personally wouldn't consider them a social unit until 18, especially since if I invited a 16 year old, it would be with their parents.

If you have enough room in your budget and at the venue to extend every single guest (over 18) a plus one, then go for it!

You do not *have* to offer truly single guests a plus one, but whatever you choose to do - just be consistent about your rule! Wedding party members should always get the option, and it's courteous to extend a plus one to guests who may not know any other wedding guests!

https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-ideas/recently-engaged/wedding-guest-list-etiquette

"Say that you're inviting a family with grown adult kids, and they have SOs? It's a family of 6 plus at least 3 other SOs, that's a lot!"

Welcome to wedding planning. ALL significant others must be invited, regardless of how long they've been dating or how serious you think they are/aren't. Random dates don't have to be invited, but it would be nice if they were. We gave everyone a plus one.

As for the 16-year-old, given that he's immediate family, I'd let him bring her, honestly, but that seems to be an unpopular opinion here. I just think it would be nice to experience his brother's wedding with his girlfriend.