So I had a bit of an argument with my mom lately. I was going to give some single guests plus ones, mostly because they would be sitting at a table full of couples or they didnt really know anyone that we were inviting to the wedding. She told me "absolutely not. If they're not dating anyone they dont get a plus one." My FH and I are the ones paying for the wedding we get the say, but is it not normal to give single guests who arent dating anyone a plus one?
We gave plus ones to all single people. If a guest is truly dating somebody that person should be included on the invite by name. It's always nice to give solo folks the option to bring somebody if they dont know anybody else or they're travelling.
We gave plus ones to all single people. Almost no one is using them but we still gave them because like you some instances were that our one single friend would be at a table of couples. Personally I wouldn’t want to attend a wedding alone so we didn’t want to make anyone do that unless they wanted to.
Thanks for the feedback all! We are probably going to give plus ones to the people we feel would be lonely without one. Our venue does have a minimum guest count, which we are currently having a hard time reaching, so the plus ones would be good for that too if people take us up on the offer
I am doing plus ones for anyone thats been dating for like 1 year plus (serious),obviously married couples (though not concidered plus ones) and if there is one or two people that will not know anyone or many people then I'll give them one so they arent alone all night. But I worked hard to invite people (and I'll seat them) with people they will know/get along with
I agree with what you're planning. It isn't required to give truly single guests a plus one, but it is a nice thing to do. You're taking your guests' comfort into consideration which is really important to do as a host.
We gave plus ones to almost every single person. The only ones we didn't were my husband's two cousins because they are both drug addicts and we didn't want them bringing someone that could cause drama, my one uncle whose long tern partner passed away about 9 months prior to the wedding and my great uncle who hasn't been in any type of relationship the entire time I've been alive and I'm 25. Those were all people that are in our family so they of course knew people at the wedding. I would definitely give plus ones to single people that don't know anyone else at the wedding or know very few people at the wedding.
I was very conservative with plus ones. If we gave a plus one to every single person it would have doubled our guest count and spend (most of our friends are single). We only gave one to those who absolutely needed it:
Anyone in a serious, long term relationship
Anyone engaged, married, or living together
A VIP guest who would not know anyone if they attended
Anyone else who is single will know 85% of the guests and will be arriving with other friends (our friend group is very close knit) so giving them a date on top of that was unnecessary. It's helpful to think about each single person individually and ask yourself how their night would be affected with/without a plus one and then make the call.
I don't think it's necessarily required that all single people have plus ones, especially if they know other people there. For example, if you're inviting a group of single coworkers, they can attend together and sit together and then there's no need for a plus one for each one. However, if they don't know anyone or are coming in from a larger distance, they may like someone to do the traveling with and to keep them company. Leaving your guests to be single AND lonely at a wedding really leaves it open for them to be bummed that they aren't with someone.