Who else received an heirloom ring?

Can you show us a picture? The only advice I can give you is ask if you can use the stones for a new setting so you can get a matching wedding band and it could be in a metal of your choice.

You could use the stone and have it placed in a new setting. Or you could have it dipped if it's just the color you don't like. Have you talked to FH about it?

You're essentially forced to wear something that is another person's taste. I see no problem talking to FS and telling them that while you are humbled by this gesture, you would like something that is more your style. Maybe you can wear the heirloom on a necklace or on your right hand instead. I also agree with using the stones to make something else.

I'd love to see a pic of the ring. What FH did with mine is he used the stones of his maternal grandmothers engagement ring and reset them in a custom setting that was more me. Maybe you could do that.

Would he feel OK having the stones put into another setting? That would be my first instinct.

Many of my couples have used an heirloom ring; virtually none of them have used the ring 'as is". They were all reset. Very often I mention that in the ceremony.

I have an heirloom diamond but FH picked out a different setting. It was a great compromise between the sentimentality of FH's grandmother's ring and having a ring that's my style, plus he saved money by not buying a new diamond.

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I actually like the ring! It's very similar to mine. But i agree with speaking to him about having the stones reset.

It's pretty! Much more contemporary than I expected.

It is beautiful but I also do not like yellow gold so I don't blame you. See about getting it redipped, but also make sure you ask about maintenance of it since you might need to get it redipped every so often. Could drive up the cost for an extended period of time.

I used my great grandmother's ring throughout our engagement , my choice. My MIL also gave me a heirloom ruby ring that belonged to my DH grandmother, I wear on my ring finger on my right hand. Now that we are married I only wear my wedding band. I love all the rings. We spent a lot on a DW, so I decided to skip the engagement ring, but DH still wants to get me one for our 5 year, which I look forward to. There is no right or wrong way, but if you feel bad about it I recommend you speak to your FH about it. I'm sure he will understand.

I did and I had my set into something I liked better. It was my FMIL's and she was on board with me doing whatever I wanted. She loves it now and I'm giving the old setting to his sister with her birthstone in it, since she really loved it.

I received an heirloom ring...kinda. it is his mother's ring but DH got the diamond set into a new setting for me because he knew it wasn't my style. I love it now and my MIL is so happy too! ETA: if he got me the original ring I would've told him that although I enjoy the sentiment, i don't like the ring!

I have my grandmothers diamond in a new setting- it's fairly common- but I think your ring is really pretty

I got his grandmother's ring, It was not my style nor my size so I asked if he would be ok with getting it re set and he had no issue whatsoever- basically he was like it's yours do what you want with it. So I went and picked out a new setting. Just talk to him about it.

I actually really like that ring, but I understand where you're coming from. You can have the diamonds put into a new setting. Or wear the ring on a necklace. I would talk to your FH about it. He might not have any idea you wouldn't like it.

I think that would be suh a beautiful right hand ring (especially if you got it dipped) but I see why you don't love it as your engagement ring. I would see if he would get you a new one for your wedding or if he doesn't like that idea if you could get it reset.

I did as well, my grandmother's and I am not allowed to get it re-set (long story) I decided it was not worth getting a different engagement ring because it was the one he proposed with. He was all down for getting something I liked better but in the end I was not comfortable spending that money. So, I decided to get a more expensive custom wedding band. My plan is to only wear my wedding band after we get married.

I only have the stone of my fh's grandmother's engagement ring. My fh knew that I wouldn't have liked the original setting. Plus he wanted something old and new for me