Who else is having a non traditional/fun wedding and what are you doing at yours?

Hahhaa this exactly what mine will be like... DW, so after the ceremony which I plan on keeping short and simple, we’ll just go and party our asses off at the reception.. nothing traditional, not even my dress.. 2 piece red dress.. I love it!! I dislike tradional weddings so much... Awesome!!!

Your wedding sounds super fun! Our wedding is non-traditional in the sense that we are not getting married in a church; we are doing a "first look"; we have a woman officiant; we're not having a garter or bouquet toss, and we're not doing any sort of "send-off". We're also closing out our night with a bonfire!

Sounds like fun! Ours is non-traditional in the sense that we are doing a first look, not having ring bearers, including our children in the ceremony, playing FUN music the entire time, not getting married in a church, having corn hole boards set out, and serving moonshine!

View Quoted Comment We're not doing a send off either and a bonfire sounds amazing!

View Quoted Comment Yay for corn hole!

View Quoted Comment Heck yeah! Love it!

That sounds fun to me! Ours is still relatively traditional but pretty casual. I'm hoping to have some games at our reception.

Ours is pretty nontraditional. I'm Christian and my FH is atheist, so our ceremony will be a little religious and a little bit civil. Our reception is brunch with mimosas and karaoke. I'm making crossword puzzles and kids activity books. I'm bringing some board games and we'll have a photo area with a Polaroid for people to take pics. I'm doing a special song for my FH. We're still doing toasts and dances, but most of the traditions we aren't doing. I really wanted it to be a fun party for our friends and family.

Your wedding sounds like a lot of fun.

We are meeting our guests (8 including us) at a restaurant for dinner the night before just to mingle and say HIIII.

My FH and I will be getting dressed and ready at the same time day-of, so no grand reveal and no sneak peek. He will see me when I'm all done when I leave the bedroom but than we'll drive to our venue together. My dad is giving me away but their is no aisle he's literally just walking me down a hiking path to our site location (Smokey Mountains, Gatlinburg, TN). We are having a hand fasting included in our ceremony and I will have a bouquet but no toss they'll just go into a vase later. (That's it...so all that other traditional stuff is out the window per ceremony.)

After our ceremony we'll pick up our best man (our dog) from our cabin and head to my parents cabin (my FH and I will have our dance private at our cabin before the reception), we'll have a mini reception with foosball, music, pool (the game not the water), light snacks, and a DQ M&M Blizzard Chocolate Ice Cream Cake (our fav!). I'll have my father daughter dance because well I just have to.

After mini reception we will go to our favorite TN pizza place with our guests for dinner.

After dinner we'll go to a amusement park so we can ride go karts, play mini golf, arcade games, etc. Then call it a night.

(So all the other reception traditional items are not happening.)

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A bonfire sounds like fun! Marshmellows, yummy.

We're mostly traditional.

Bar the swordfight...

We're both actors and FH is also a journeyman in an Italian fencing tradition.

So. Swordfight!

View Quoted Comment Um wow. Wish I had a reason for a sword fight cause that is SICK

Hi Aubrey,

I was just wondering how your wedding went?? We're doing the exact same thing in Sept, 2020. We don't even know if I'll walk down an isle... just sort of gather around at the ceremony and then back to our backyard for a hamburger bar and yard games, etc. Our wedding is only 45 people, so we might all just up and decide to head down to our local watering hole when it gets cold at night, haha.

Do you have any tips! Did you get any backlash, or were people just excited to celebrate with you two and didnt care about a lack of tradition? Oh, and what did your invites say - anything about informality??

Thank you so much, and congrats!!

View Quoted Comment It went amazing! People still tell us all the time it was the best wedding they've ever been to because there was no schedule and it was a lighthearted event. I totally recommend doing it like that and your plan sounds great! To me it was still super special even though it wasn't formal. We didn't get any backlash at all because I think people secretly get bored during toasts and endless planned dances, etc. It's about being happy and celebrating the two of you! And I'm uploading a photo of our invitation. It didn't say anything about it being informal but most people knew ahead of time through

word of mouth. (For example, my friend wore a jump suit instead of a dress because I told her about the bounce house and she wanted to jump with her daughter). Hope this helps and good luck!

View Quoted Comment That's so great!!
Your comment about speeches and planned dances are our thoughts exactly. I'm finding it tough to plan since most resources are so caught up in tradition. But we're sticking to our plan
Thank you so much for the advice. This makes me even more excited!

View Quoted Comment Absolutely! Don't settle for anything you wouldn't want due to tradition. Congrats!

We're doing some of the traditional stuff like First Dance, Father & Daughter Dance, Garter Toss and Garter Toss. Food is pretty traditional as well.

Our ceremony is going to be a handfasting. Our theme is "The Adventure Begins." We'll be having book, Dungeons & Dragons, and videogame references in our decor. Our centerpieces are stacks of books with roses made out of books. The bridal bouquets will also be made out of book roses. We're going to have polyhedral dice scattered across the tables. The groom/groomsmen will have boutonnieres made with dice. Our cake topper consists of a Playstation Controller and a Book with a customized heart between them with our initials and wedding date.

The pics below are examples of what the boutonnieres and bouquet look like. Not my pics.

View Quoted Comment Those are some really creative and fun ideas!!