Who Does What Around Your Home?

Full disclosure: We are in our mid fifties and are empty nesters. We have lived together since summer 2015. I have a more stressful job and was coming home and vacuuming, dusting, all the stuff. He did nothing, lol. Short story? We hired a cleaning person once a month and it is the best $90 we have ever spent, lol. I still clean a bit between her visits though. But I was NOT going to fight over cleaning, lol!!

We didn't have a long sit-down discussion and appointed chores. Sometimes these type of things just happen without thought. We both have office jobs, but he works a more stressful job and longer hours. Since COVID, he has been working from home but before he had to commute about 1-2 hours for work (depending on traffic) each day. So I do the majority of the cleaning. We live in a studio and his small desk and work space is set up in a corner in the kitchen area. That's the area he's mostly responsible for since that's where he is spending the majority of his time. I clean our room, bathroom, and areas of the kitchen I can if its not in his working spot. And I buy all the groceries and toiletries. But he does all the yard work/picking up dog poop, vehicle maintenance, pays the utilities and phone bill, and takes out the trash. We each do our own laundry, (except sheets and blankets I wash all those), we take turn with cooking and dishes and he feeds our dogs in the morning while I feed them at night. We do our own doctors/dentist/etc appointments. But if we are planning a vacation I am the planner and pay for booking and activities while he pays for all the food,gas, souvenirs, and does all the driving.