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Who deserves to be the Moh?

sherraine, on May 21, 2019 at 3:59 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 13
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Okay so I've been going over my list of choices for my wedding party. And my choices are

-My bff ( whom I've known for over 10 years)
-My big sister
-My good freind from my college years, with her daughter as the flower girl
-My fiancé's sister
I'm thinking about making my BFF my maid of honor. What's on my relatives think my older sister should be my maid of honor well because shes my sister. I love my sister to death and Of course I want her in my bridal party , But I've always sort of envisioned my best friend being my maid of honor

Does a bride usually pick a relative or am I just being rude?


  • FutureMrsD
    Legend July 2019
    FutureMrsD ·

    I would make the person you are closest to your maid of honor. The rest can be bridesmaids.

  • Bride2020
    Devoted May 2020
    Bride2020 ·
    Nope, totally up to you who the moh is! I’d make it your best friend since thats what you want!
  • Caytlyn
    Champion November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
    You can pick whoever you want. Sharing DNA doesn’t automatically make you maid of honor.
  • Maria
    Super October 2019
    Maria ·

    My best friend is my MOH and my older sister is just a bridesmaid.

  • Emily
    Expert April 2020
    Emily ·

    Go with your gut and pick who you really want there as your MOH.

  • Future Mrs Sullivan
    Expert June 2019
    Future Mrs Sullivan ·
    I made my sister and my BFF co-maids of honor
  • Kelsey
    Dedicated September 2019
    Kelsey ·

    I have two sisters, but went with one of my best friends as my MOH. I did, however, have a discussion with each of my sisters before I made this decision to make sure there would be no hurt feelings (the LAST thing I want is to start family drama), but thankfully they were both more than okay with it.

  • Kelly
    VIP October 2020
    Kelly ·
    My sister isn't even in my bridal party.
    I say do what you've always envisioned.
  • Cassy
    Devoted September 2020
    Cassy ·
    I had a similar decision to make. I have my best friend of 20 years we’re basically family and then my older cousin who’s like a sister. I’ve always been closer to my best friend but i felt like i was obligated to ask my cousin to be my MOH. I had the same feeling as you though and only envisioned my best friend as my MOH since she’s always been the closest person to me, so I’m asking her instead of my cousin. I realized that for my wedding I shouldn’t do anything because I’m “obligated to”, and I should do what will make me the happiest on the big day!
  • Elizabeth
    Dedicated February 2020
    Elizabeth ·
    I am having a main and matron of honor for this exact reason. I love my sister dearly but she really wanted to be my maid of honor. While I always envisioned my best friend being my MOH. Both were very happy with this choice. Maybe you could consider this
  • J
    Master 0000
    Judith ·
    No need to pick relatives over friends as MOH. And it is possible to have 2 MOH. There is no difference in the role between BM and MOH, except a MOH is one you have known longest or see most of ( closest to.). Showers can be planned by bridesmaids, or any female friend or family not in the bridal party, for example. It often happens that the person who is a bride's closest friend is first to volunteer. But it is not a MOH job to do any particular thing. It is meant as an honor. So who you honor is up to you, it is not for anyone else to suggest to you.
  • A
    Beginner November 2019
    Ashley ·
    I felt the same way and decided to have two MOHs- my little sister and my best friend. My bridal party is pretty small too- only 4 people total. So far, it’s working out great! I’d recommend it
  • Madison
    Devoted April 2020
    Madison ·
    If you have always thought your bff should do it then have her do it!!! It’s your wedding and that is for you to decide not for anyone to tell you who should and shouldn’t be in your bridal party.

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