Who can throw a bridal shower?

It used to be etiquette that the mother or FMIL couldn't throw showers because it was seen as gift grabbing. That was really more when brides were so young and were basically going from their parent's house to their husband's. In today's world, the only person that can't throw the shower is the bride.

My sister and a friend threw a couple's shower for us. FMIL's sisters are throwing me a shower in a couple of weeks. She's leaving her name off of it. I understand the whole etiquette thing. I don't know. If someone thinks it's against southern etiquette, and you're from the south, I'd at least take it into consideration. If people who will attend will find it rude, I would think about not doing it. If it's your FH's family, and no one from the south will be there, then I wouldn't see the problem with it.

My mom and sister threw me one and my mother in law and sister in laws threw me one.

My mom was upset they were split up and not the two families together ( it would have been 30 ladies anyways... And if more would have shown we could have had up to 60, all from the families, only 2 friends) but my in-laws really wanted to throw one for me when my sister in law was In town and her husband was about to deploy so we had to schedule around that

Etiquette written on this is extremely old school, I'd just say as long as you're not throwing a party in honor of yourself you should be fine

If people think its rude maybe they should not come, or offer to throw you one themselves. I have the sweetest fmil and couldnt imagine telling her no if she offered to do something nice for me

I agree with Eleanor. I am from the south as well, and way back when that use to be etiquette, but I promise you now all the showers I have been to in my years it has been hosted by the mother / MIL. Don't think twice about it, let her have it, and your momma will just have to get over it.

Etiquette-wise anyone but the couple may host the shower.

http://www.emilypost.com/weddings/new-times-new-traditions/129-who-can-host-a-shower

Duplicate post. Looks like Carrie beat me anyway

Modern etiquette says it's fine for family to host showers. Older family members may be basing there opinion on traditional etiquette rules. It could also be a southern thing, I don't live there and therefore don't know. Maybe show your family this link. Emily Post is an etiquette source I'd trust.

http://www.emilypost.com/weddings/new-times-new-traditions/129-who-can-host-a-shower

Thank you everyone! That's a very informative post

I'm born and bred in the south and we've just followed bride and brides IMMEDIATE family cannot host(bride, mom/grandmother or sister), but after that its open range! If sister is part of BP then she can cohost.