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Just Said Yes August 2020

Who are your bridesmaids?

Lauren, on August 2, 2019 at 10:19 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 49
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Been lurking here a while now, but as my wedding is going to happen, I was wondering who the bridesmaids of you ladies actually are. Are they mostly family, or friends? High school or college or work friends? Do you end up including friends or family of your partner in your bridal party?


Just curious.

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  • Cher Horowitz
    Rockstar December 2019
    Cher Horowitz Online ·

    Welcome to WW! My MOH and BMs are friends from middle school and high school! I'm not having any relatives in my bridal party

  • Kristen
    VIP April 2020
    Kristen ·
    My MOH and I have been friends since we were 5, onebridesmaid I met in high school and lived with in college, and the other I met at work in college
  • Caytlyn
    Champion November 2019
    Caytlyn Online ·
    My side consists of three of my closest friends (one high school, one college, one work) and my sister. I think it’s odd to include your FS’s friends and family on your side unless they’re also your close friends. Why wouldn’t they just stand on your FS’s side since that’s who they have a relationship with?
  • Laura
    Rockstar October 2019
    Laura ·

    My niece is my maid of honor, and my bridesmaid is a friend i've had for 45 years.

  • Gen
    Master June 2019
    Gen ·
    MOH is my best friend who I met in middle school and also went to high school and college with.

    Bridesmaid 1 is from high school, bridesmaid 2 is my mom’s best friend’s daughter who I’ve known my whole life and grew up with basically like a cousin, and bridesmaid 3 is from elementary school.

    Most of my friends are from high school or earlier...... none of the friends I’ve made since then have really stuck 🤷🏻‍♀️
  • Kelly
    VIP October 2020
    Kelly ·
    Mine are my two best friends. My sister and cousin are super mad I didn't pick them but I know I can't count on them to even show up on time.
  • Megan
    Dedicated December 2019
    Megan ·

    My MOH is my oldest friend from college (we met my junior year, her freshman year). Another is a good friend I met through MOH. We all hang out together and travel and that kind of thing. Two come from church, and one of them was even a roommate for a year! They're all people I keep in touch with and hang out with regularly.
    I was MOH for a good friend not too long out of college -- I think we were 24 (we're 30 now), but she moved further away and we just haven't seen each other much at all since she got married, so I really debated having her in my party for history sake, but she's at least an hour away with a brand new baby, and I truly have seen her 2x in the last 2-3 years, so that seemed not super realistic. No falling out or anything, just time and distance, which is what I struggled with the most.
    I'm not having any of my fiance's sisters or my SILs in the party (no sisters of my own) since I'm not very close to them and my SILs are coming from out-of-state -- that seemed like enough for them to handle!

  • Formerbride
    Rockstar June 2019
    Formerbride ·
    My MOH is my best friend. We've known each other since elementary school. My junior bridesmaid was my young cousin. My husband chose his childhood friend and his junior groomsman was my cousin. We both have siblings but didn't have them into the wedding party.
  • M
    Dedicated May 2020
    Millicent ·

    I have seven bridesmaids and two junior bridesmaids. It's a mix of friends and family My MoH is my best friend from elementary, middle and high school. My younger sister is one of my bridesmaids and so is my cousin, who I've been close to since childhood. There's also another two close friends from high school and my two really close college friends. My junior bridesmaids are my nieces. I'd have loved my two older sisters up there as well, but they are way too busy with family to commit.


    I've heard of friends and family of the partner being bridesmaids, but I've never seen the point in that. Your bridesmaids should be people you are close to.

  • D
    Super September 2019
    Dana ·
    I have a mix...and more people than i wanted but its going to be great !
    1. MOH - sister
    2. Sister in law
    3. Best friend since kindergarten
    4. Friend since pre-school
    5. Friend since 4th grade
    6. Friend since 5th grade
    7. Cousin
    8. Cousin
    9. Cousin
  • O
    Dedicated October 2020
    Osha ·
    My MOH is my Best Friend For Life, one of my BM is my aunt and one is my FH cousin and she's also the person that introduced us.
  • Glacier
    Savvy June 2020
    Glacier ·
    My daughter is my Matron of Honor, both my sisters are Maids of Honor, two really good friends and my sister in law are my bridesmaids.
  • Mrs.jackson
    Dedicated April 2020
    Mrs.jackson ·
    My bridesmaids are: my sister, two of my best friends, my niece and my friend from my church.
  • Rebecca
    Dedicated June 2020
    Rebecca ·
    My “bridesmaids” are going to be my dad’s two closest friends from when he was growing up. He passed away almost three years ago and I really wanted to find ways to incorporate him in the wedding.

    That being said, part of what influenced this decision is that my FH is from Southern California (we live in IL) and doesn’t have a lot of close guy friends here, has a small family, and I have a giant family with about a dozen potential bridesmaids. To solve this, I have my “bridesmen” and he is having his sisters be his “grooms-ladies”.
  • Devin
    Super October 2019
    Devin ·
    My moh & 1 BM are friends from mid-teens and I have my FH’s 2 sisters.
  • Erin
    Dedicated October 2019
    Erin ·
    I personally didn’t want to have a bridal party, but my FH really wanted to have one so I picked my 3 sisters and future sister in law (I’m close with her) for a total of 4. That way I knew the people at our wedding and in our photos would always be in my life and I wouldn’t have to pick between friends and siblings. My older sister had nine and doesn’t talk to most of them anymore since life changes as you get older.
  • Cassy
    Devoted September 2020
    Cassy ·
    My side is my cousin and 3 best friends from elementary/high school. FH’s side is his cousin, 4 childhood friends and my 2 brothers. I won’t be including his sister though. I wouldn’t include any of his family or friends unless I was close to them too.
  • H
    Dedicated November 2019
    Heather ·
    Personally I find it strange when people have huge bridal parties but to each his own. I would start with the most important friend as your MOH and then build from there if you feel its necessary. We were going with one each but since he ended up with 2, I added my sister to my good friend (MOH). This week it looks like the 2nd groomsman is not coming and we will probably keep it as is. Guys can stay at alter and girls walk alone. Dont feel pressure to have several people and you can go with no one if you want. Just be true to who you want versus obligation. Bridesmaids can cause additional drama and stress so think about your expectations before you ask. They will not suddenly change because you are getting married. Stick with the people who are already there for you. My thoughts but what do I know. Lol
  • Tilar Fifield
    Devoted August 2019
    Tilar Fifield ·
    I have 6 bridesmaids total. My maid of honor is my bestie, we’ve been friends since the 3rd grade! 1 is a childhood friend, another Is a friend from high school. And 2 are former coworkers I’ve stayed close with. And then my fiance’s cousin! His cousin is only a few weeks older than me and we aren’t exactly close, but she is probably the nicest person I have ever met and I thought including her would be a nice way for us to become closer since I will be family soon!
  • Lisa
    Devoted October 2020
    Lisa ·
    I have a bridal party of one. My MOH is my sister and her two daughters are my flower girls.

    FH’s BM is his best friend from grade school.

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