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Devoted April 2020

Who actually Looks at Wedding Websites?

J, on January 24, 2019 at 5:06 PM Posted in Planning 0 21
Think back to yourself before you were a future bride. Because now that we are - we’re clearly all checking our fiends’ wedding websites. But before you were engaged and you went to a wedding, did you actually go to the websites? I’ve asked several of my friends (who several are now brides) and they all said that they had never visited a wedding website before.

Kinda bums me out because I’ve put a lot of work into my website. But also makes me disagree with a lot of stuff people say on here like “don’t ever say “no kids” on the invite - that should go on your website” or “don’t ever put your registry on the invite - that’s on the website.” But......no one actually looks at websites, soooo I’m having a bit of a disconnect here.

I’m also having a disconnect because every wedding invite I’ve ever received has blatantly said some version of “no kids” directly on the invite along with the registry.

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Latest activity by Alyssa, on January 25, 2019 at 6:00 AM
  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    YES. I may be literally the only guest who does, but I do every time. If they don't list a website, I still Google search it to see if they have one. I'm a huge fan of wedding websites, but I'm a planner! I love knowing details & locations, and reading their love story & seeing multiple registries in one place. I know at least 22 people have looked at ours since we sent our save the dates out in October just because to book our hotel it's easiest to go to the website. You can type in the link but you have to type out a super long URL that is pretty confusing. Our RSVP is also through our website, which some people chose to use after we sent save the dates before our invites went out. I do agree not to put your registry on your invite, I 100% agree with that. I've never heard of a bride not getting presents because she didn't list it. People know to search the website or names for registry information.

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  • Nisa
    Super March 2019
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    I agree with you that there seems to be a bit of disconnect. Like a lot of the time people say that things will naturally get around through word-of-mouth and I'm like uhm, not in my social circle! haha. I can say that I did look at a wedding website before when I was invited, only because the RSVP was digital. My RSVP is the same way. I think without the digital RSVP, very few people would actually look.

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  • J
    Devoted April 2020
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    Right?! Same! And maybe my social circle is odd because it’s so disconnected. I never had a “group” of friends - I had random people here & there. And my fiancé is (mostly) the same way. Our wedding will be a bunch of people who will only know a few people. So there’s no “word of mouth” thing here. Haha.

    But yeah I’m considering the digital RSVP thing for that reason (and also because environment & cost of stamps hahah). Have you had any issues with it? Any difficulties with older guests?
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  • Brittany
    Dedicated February 2020
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    Yes, I’ve always loved looking at wedding websites. 😊 I especially look if I’m uncertain of the attire, registry, or cannot remember the address of the venue. I also look there for hotel block information. Now that I’m a bride creating my own, I hope I at least have a few guests like me. 😂
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  • Nisa
    Super March 2019
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    Yeah, same! Most people at my wedding don't know each other at all, so expecting things to just "naturally" happen isn't going to work out. I feel like people who say that either have mostly family weddings or a very dominating parent who is willing to tell everyone, but I have no such luck haha.

    And it's working out well so far! Invites have been in people's hands for about two weeks, not too many RSVPs because I think everyone waits till the last second. I'm using withjoy.com. Only one elderly guest has had trouble so far, but it was cool because I could see that she had logged in and viewed the website, so I at least know getting to the website isn't a problem. I just reached out to her and filled in the rest for her. I've had two other elderly guests RSVP with no problem. Just like with paper, I know I will have to hunt down a few stragglers, but overall I'm pleased with the experience so far.

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  • Sarah
    Master September 2019
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    I’ve always checked the website if someone has one. Sometimes it’s just to see their pictures, other times it’s because I’m looking for info (attire, room block, etc) but I’ve never not checked a wedding website that’s been listed on an invite.
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  • Courtney
    Super September 2019
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    I have as a guest have looked at wedding websites and a few of my (not engaged or married) friends commented on our website. I think they’re most helpful when provided at the save the date stage so guests can get an idea of where the wedding is, hotel info, dress code etc.
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  • Kelly
    Champion October 2018
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    I’ve always loved looking at people’s wedding websites even before I got engaged or married! Most people looked at ours but I think that’s because we did RSVPs solely thru the website.
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  • JustKidding
    VIP April 2018
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    I always look. I think they are fun!

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  • Chandra
    Master May 2019
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    I've looked at every one I've been to! Even at a coworker's when I wasnt invited!
    I think it's fun to learn more about the couple!
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  • Tara
    Master May 2020
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    Yes, I did. I can be a little nosey though LOL. Instead of asking questions I investigate online.
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  • Kate
    Devoted December 2018
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    I was shocked at how few people looked at mine..
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  • A
    Master January 2021
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    I have never looked at a wedding website before, during, or after my own wedding planning.

    For the no kids dilemma I addressed the invites to the specific individuals invited and put “we have reserved 2 seats in your honor” on the rsvp card. I didn’t have any issues with someone trying to add extra people. As a guest I just google the wedding venue to help gauge proper attire. I’ve always been able to figure out how to attend an event without an entire website dedicated to it.
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  • Cristy
    Master May 2021
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    I am a little embarrassed to admit that before I became a bride to be, I had never even heard of a "wedding website" let alone seen one!! Granted, I am an older bride, and not as tech savvy as some of you younger gals. But it is for that exact reason that I'm not sure I should even have one for my wedding. Probably 75% of our guests will be in my age group or older, and many are even less tech savvy than me! So, I'm not sure a wedding website is the right thing to do.

    I've always gotten all the information I needed about a wedding from the invitation. Rules of etiquette (that my mother so painstakingly taught us) answered most of my questions regarding proper attire, gift selection and other general topics. So, is it really necessary?

    BTW, my daughter thinks it's essential to have a website. But she's 27, and a complete techy compared to me! If I tell my 75-year old great aunt to "go to my website" she's not going to even know what I'm talking about! lol

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  • Mandy
    VIP May 2019
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    I've never looked at someone's website. I started to make one because it seems like everyone does, but I stopped. If someone wants to know how we met or how he proposed they can ask. I'd say 90% of the people I'm inviting would never visit it. They are more "old school" and will just look at the invite and show up.
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  • Kristen
    Dedicated November 2019
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    I always looked at websites as soon as I get the save the date in the mail even before I got engaged. Like some others said, I like to plan and know details as soon as I can. Actually had an issue recently where a family member was complaining she didn’t know any details about the wedding. When I told her to look at the website, she seemed so confused. Turns out she never looked at it because she was too busy ::eye roll:: It is disappointing to put so much time and effort into the website to make sure everyone has all of the information they need and then find out they never looked at it.
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  • J
    Devoted April 2020
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    I agree! I’ve put sooooo much work into my website! I have a full page where I researched bars, restaurants, and even found the nearest CVS for people and it’s bumming me out thinking that the large majority of people probably won’t even look at it.
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  • Kiwibride
    Super November 2018
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    I definitely do. I skip over anything unnecessary/extra like how they met or wedding party bios because it's irrelevant to my planning. Hotels, info about the venue, travel tips etc are all things I want to read. I'll also check in a few times before the wedding just to see if anything has been updated.

    Literally everyone had to go to our website to RSVP so I know they all saw it and that many read it because people showed up to the free bus so I guess it was effective. But if they hadn't looked at much I wouldn't be too phased because we spent less than an hour working on it all up.
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  • Alyssa
    Master December 2019
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    I’m going with enclosures with all the information because I’ve never looked at one

    i put tons of time into mine but I kind of did for everything so I’m viewing it as I did it because I wanted to lol
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  • J
    Devoted April 2020
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    Yeah same! I’m just having fun with it! But what do you mean you put stuff as an enclosure? I don’t know what that means but that sounds like something I might wanna do so as much detail as you can provide would be very much appreciated! ☺️
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