Which date would you like better

I think one of the April dates would be best, in my opinion. If you have it in June, it may be too hot in the barn as you've stated there is no AC!

That's rough. The weather has been so unpredictable lately (NJ native). Since your venue has heat and no AC, I would veer toward April. However, I would also have a backup plan for rain.

I don't like any of the dates... 😢😢😢 I just don't know what to do... Look for a new venue or try for 9/5/2020, 9/6/2015 is our dating anniversary, but that's labor day weekend.

Since we are getting married on June 27, 2020 I am partial to that date

I will say in second defense of this date I would take into consideration how rainy the springs have been lately I would be worried having an outdoor ceremony in April.

Either date in April and use the heaters.

NJ is a bit cool in April

View Quoted Comment We have family in Jersey it is still pretty cool there the start of June till even later June.

I'm not a spring person due to bad spring allergies so an outdoor wedding in spring can sometimes be miserable for me. I'd opt for the summer followed by 4/4. My FH's groomsman just got married in June, and the entire wedding was outside in Tennessee, which can be awful in summertime. It, actually, felt great outside that day since it was overcast. April in NJ may be too cold for people if it gets below 55. It's nice that the barn has heat, and you're having a fire pit, though! If you go with April, it'd be nice to provide blankets for your guests during the ceremony in case they get cold!

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I'm a bit partial to September, as we're getting married 9/7/19 (ahhhhhh!!!) and I think your dating anniversary would be really sweet! Then you can combine the dating and wedding anniversaries into a two-day anniversary extravaganza after you get married.

We picked September over June for the weather. We're also doing a barn wedding. We can't wait to have a fire pit and smores in the evening. If it's cooler in September, I think it'll be more crisp than miserable. Fall cool weather has always seemed more pleasant to me than spring cool weather! Maybe I'm just weird.

I feel like spring can have a shorter window of looking pretty, too. And early April might be a letdown. If spring comes late, you may have bare trees, just a bit of green and a lot of mud. At least, that's what we get in the midwest. In September, you either get the tail end of summer or the beginning of autumn - both really lovely. You'll either have full green trees or leaves just starting to turn.

If people have to travel for your wedding, Labor Day weekend might actually work out pretty well. People will have time to travel, but also time to chill out and have fun. Granted, at your venue, that could mean more foot traffic, right?

Our day is also my mom's birthday. We asked if we could share her special day with her and she was agreed very happily, so maybe your April birthday won't mind, if you do decide on April.

I would opt for 4/11. June here is hot and wet the entire month. When I did wedding photography June weddings were the most miserable. At least here in Ohio. maybe it's not so bad where you are lol. Since Easter is on a Sunday I don't see the big deal having it the same weekend unless your family does stuff all weekend. We don't do anything for Easter so I never even know when it is though.

So we talked to FH's aunt yesterday and she could not do 4/11 so that was out. I kept asking FH what he prefered and he kept saying 4/4, but wouldn't really say why he preferred that. Initially when I told him the dates yesterday he said June. Finally today he said he preferred 4/4 because he thinks that's what I want. Yesterday when only 4/4 and 6/27 were in play I asked my Grammy, who passed away when I was 7, for help and then flipped a coin. I had to search all over the back of my car to find the coin and when I found it, it was on tails which meant June.

We also were able to get in touch with FiL's in France. They said they would be happy with any date, but were concerned with April being a little chilly and with Sept possibly being too hot and humid.

This was my concern also plus I really didn't want a holiday weekend wedding, so we went with the coin flip and picked 6/27/2020. Just sent in the application so hopefully we hear back soon and we get approved for that date. Luckily FH was able to get one of his work friends to put his name on the application so we will get the in-county rate which saves us over $500. And the guy also said his parents own a liquor store so they can hook us up with all the beer, wine, and alcohol.

So fingers crossed and I'm ready for a nap!

I don't know how much the weather differs from NY to NJ but I live in NY and April is usually a very rainy month. That is the sole reason why FH and I chose to avoid April even though our "dating" anniversary was in April. So if you're okay with chancing the weather with rain I think 4/4 is your best bet so you're not super close to your brothers anniversary. However, if you want a better chance of nice weather even though it would be a hotter there is less chance of rain in June.

If you’re having an outdoor ceremony with games and a firepit at night I would consider the age and health of your guests. If you have ANY elderly guests I would choose June. It will be too cold for anyone frail to be outside that long unless you provide blankets and maybe hot beverages for everyone.

View Quoted Comment I have considered all of this. There really isn't anyone old and frail. Mostly friends and a few of FiL's friends. The outside things are an option not a requirement and there will be plenty going on inside, we honestly feel like we will be inside dancing most of the night. The fire pit is just a possibility if our friends want to start one. FH has one slightly eardlery aunt and we have discussed special arrangement like a special vip parking spot and a server who we will speak to about paying special attention to her. Also FH has 3 brothers 2 of which have wives and they are all very considerate and mindful of this aunt. And she's really not even that old just the parking could be an issue for her so we have that covered.
Thanks for the feedback.

View Quoted Comment As long as you’re taking care of the aunt it sounds like any date you choose would be fine if your ceremony is a standard length of time(not hour+), sounds like a good time! Maybe you could have games inside too!

View Quoted Comment I honestly want a really short and sweet ceremony like 30 min or less, no reading or anything. Maybe just a nice how we met story vows, ring exchange, signing license, kissing and then on to dancing!
Games inside can actually work really well. There are like 4 horse stalls in a separate hallway that could hold games. I know it sounds weird by FH really wants a little basketball hoop in one of the stalls. We just love activities and whenever we visit his parents at the beach in Delaware we always play the basketball arcade game like every night we are there.
We are going for a more laid back fun vibe which will fit in nicely with our group. I'm a little worried about how his parents and their friends will take it since his other 2 brothers had very traditional weddings, but we are the most happy when we talk about having this more off-beat wedding. We tried to go the traditional route in the begining and we both were just miserable.

View Quoted Comment Hey have your wedding your way. Weddings aren’t just ceremony of your unity, it’s a celebration of your relationship. Share with your guests a part of your lives. FH and I are including touches of video games, DnD and renaissance festivals in ours. Your wedding sounds fun to me. I’d rather be at a fun wedding that includes activities the couples loves.

My daughter picked June for a tented wedding starting at 4pm because she liked that trees and flowers in the gardens will be blooming, it was warmer (usually mid 70s) and the sun sets later around 8:30. (We are in Massachusetts so same weather and time zone as you)

Hope that helps

lol just read that you picked June!