Where's the excitement? It's hard to plan a wedding when you feel like nobody actually cares.

Your wedding is over a year away. That's a little far off for people to get THAT excited over, IMO. I think they'll get more excited as it gets closer.

Your wedding will always be most exciting to you and FH. It's a priority and a big deal in YOUR lives. Everyone else has their own stuff going on.

If your family isn't supportive and causing you more grief that you want to deal with, STOP TALKING ABOUT IT. Don't let others rain on your parade. At the end of the day it's about you and FH, no one else.

Sorry - I should have elaborated a little more.

The main problem was their initial reaction - really sucky and has made the whole situation quite awkward.

We came back from our holiday overseas and announced it when we got home. Instead of getting the reaction we thought we would (happiness!), it turned into a family argument that dragged out for weeks. I can tell you now that we did not fight back, we just took it.

Yes - our wedding is over a year away, but only to keep the peace between my sister and I - we thought it wise to give her a 6 month difference since she's already a bridezilla. I love her dearly, but still.

We haven't talked about our wedding with pretty much anyone since then, but it always get's bought backup by my sister who makes a big commotion about it all over again.

It just sucks being newly engaged and not being able to get excited or talk to anyone about anything.

I completely understand! that is one of the reasons why i turned to these forum posts - to chat with people that actually understood and shared my excitement!

my FH and i are getting married 6 months after his cousin - and honestly, nothing has been focused on us at all.. FH didn't even get a "happy birthday" from his family because everything is focused on this other wedding. it was really bringing me down. even more so, i finally bought my perfect dress and one grandmother compared it to the cousin's fiance's dress and asked if i was sure i wanted to go that route - um YES!

so i completely understand. i just keep reminding myself that it is about FH and I - and no one else. I know we are planning a kick a** party that people will have a blast at - even if they don't care about it now - i know i look beautiful in my dress (at least i think i do!) ...

I didn't read your entire post but your wedding is around the same time mine is...the only people excited about it right now is me and my FH...and a few of my BM's. Our brain right now will be wedding wedding wedding for the next year....no ones starts getting excited until a few months before.

Family is full of rubbish.

When I annouced my engagement, my older sister said that now we'll have to have our weddings close together to accomodate out of town guests... huh? Since when are you getting married???

She also made sure she was married before me, and family on Facebook were posting about how happy they were for her when they announced their engagement AFTER me- where are my congratulations?????????

I would pay no attention to your family- they can't dictate when you must get married. You have YOUR life, your sister has HER life and you are both entitled to get married whenever you chose.

We started planning over a year ago and while everyone as excited about us getting married, they weren't as excited about it as me and probably didn't want to hear all my detail. With 6 weeks to go from this Saturday, everyone is pumped and asking millions of questions. I'm like finally!!!! I've been waiting for this much attention and reaction.

They'll come around. For now, turn to wedding wire for support.

I agree SA Bride To Be!

We got a bit of congratulations from our families when we announced it in April, but after that not too much. Except my grandmother has never mentioned it still! Now it seems my sister and mother aren't too interested in even just planning gossip. Plus my sister has laughed at some of the things I wanted for my wedding. I just learn to let it roll off my shoulder, because I'M excited.

We'llAlwaysHaveParis has it right, too. Ours is a year away, but we have no solid plans so I feel like it's hard for someone to get excited over it just yet. I feel like people willl get excited a couple months or a month before.

I agree with Joanna, I have been engaged for over a year. Everyone was happy for us but not no interest in the wedding. I think we were around 60 days when people started asking questions and showing interest. I was 45 days out when our best man came into my office sit down and said "Let's talk wedding " I was shocked and thrilled. The closer you get the more excited people will become.

As for your sister, she is just being a jerk. She don't want to share all the attention. If you and FH are paying for your own wedding do what you to, it's your money , your day !

Welcome to WW

Sometimes people just can't be happy for others. i feel for you, because i am in a similar situation. it's sad when the people we love the most don't mirror our own happiness. one of the most exciting times in a woman's life and when it falls flat, it leaves us feeling rotten inside. all i can offer is just to be happy for yourself and your FH. enjoy everything you can, even if its just the two of you being happy about something. in the end, it's all about you and him anyways. so just try to look past people and enjoy the blessing of marriage.

I understand how you're feeling..my family was the same way...but i didnt let that get to me or bring me down. My DH and i planned everything by our selfs with no ones help. Dont let them bring you down its your wedding and you're paying for it so why should give them the time of day for their opinions. Wish you all the luck on your wedding planning..

When we first got engaged we were 15 months out-no one even cared and some didnt even say Congratulations. Now that we're 3 days short of being 10 months out (who's counting) people are asking more questions and asking for invitations.....and We only share basic info with certain people (like the date) so that they can't give their opinions!!

I'm the first child, grandchild and great grandchild so I thought my family would be excited about my engagement but all they did was complain about the date and place. Saying things like if I have it that far away they wouldn't come. Even my grandfather (who I asked to give me away) said since it's hunting season at the same time he wouldn't come. It breaks my heart :'(