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Just Said Yes June 2019

Where to seat people front to back

Rachel, on June 3, 2019 at 11:43 PM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 6

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Hi All,

I’m stressing with the seating chart, but not to actually assign the tables...although that was a ton of fun, especially with the FH’s aunt asking to bring a plus 1 and now that plus 1 isn’t coming anymore and we only figured it out when I casually asked who was watching her dogs. Anyways, the bigger issue is the location of seating people. It sounds like my moms friends are going to be upset if they’re in the last row, but how do you choose who goes where location-wise?!! And it’s seriously a thing to be pissed over sitting in the back row?! I shouldn’t be stressing over this, and more worried about my grandma who went to the hospital last weekend and our wedding is this Saturday. And I mean worried as in helping and taking care of her. Somebody has to sit in the back, right?!

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Latest activity by Nemo, on June 4, 2019 at 12:31 PM

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Hannah · on June 4, 2019 at 12:02 AM
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I'm kind of confused by your mention of rows. Normally, tables are assigned with proximity to the bride and groom being the most honored. Usually, people like parents' friends would be at tables further away just because they aren't as important as others to the bride and groom (this all including the fact that anyone in attendance at the wedding are considered important to the bride and groom). You literally can't have every table within 2 feet of the bride and groom. Some people have to be on the outer perimeters.
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Just Said Yes June 2019
Rachel · on June 4, 2019 at 12:12 AM
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I guess I shouldn’t have said rows. I like the way you put it about proximity to the bride and groom. They feel like they are important because they demanded on throwing me a bridal shower, but there were all these strings attached. I agree with you that if they are invited, that does mean they are important, but it seems like that not everyone realizes that. Who would you suggest goes in the outside perimeters?
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Tiffany · on June 4, 2019 at 12:22 AM
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I would simply place them where it seems appropriate and let them get over it. We did bridal party and family nearest, and kept close folks near each other. Placed those who may not appreciate it at tables further from the dance floor and our sweetheart table. It is so silly, not everyone can be nearest us. Lol
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Hannah · on June 4, 2019 at 12:24 AM
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I haven't done my seating chart yet, but my RSVPs are due in a few weeks so that's coming soon. Honestly, people like coworkers, parents' friends, and other people who are a little more removed would be how I would go. My plan is to try to work my way out. So have our table and then start building out with close friends and immediate family, then more extended family and less close friends, etc. People who we are the most excited to have celebrating with us and can't imagine the day without in a continuum to people who we are happy to be able to join us but are kind of the people that you're surprised RSVPed yes, if that makes sense. I hope my explanation isn't just gibberish lol!
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VIP June 2019
Formerbride · on June 4, 2019 at 6:45 AM
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We are putting my parents friends mostly in the table furthest from us. We had to split my parents friends up so 2 couples will be sitting with my dads side of the family (only 4 people coming) and the rest get to sit together. Honestly, my moms friends would have sat closer to my FHs family but I think they may be more rowdy than our friends. 🤣 Unless your friends with your parents friends, they are probably less close to you than almost all of your guests. Do not sweat it! You cannot please everyone. For real, people will complain no matter what.
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Nemo · on June 4, 2019 at 12:31 PM
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Our set up was like this (tried to center I but it wouldn't let me...hopefully you get the idea)
Head Table
Table A Table B Table C Table D Table E
Table F Table G Table H Table I Table J Table K

Head table in the center at the front
We had 5 tables in the first row. The furthest table over was the table with H's parent's friends (A), then it was my dad's table (B), then it was H's parent's table (C), then it was my mom's table (D), then it was H's friend's table (E).
We had 6 tables in the second (last) row. The furthest table to the left was my dad's friends (F). Then it was another table of his friends and my best friend's family (G), then it was the table of my cousins (H), then a table of H's cousins (I), then a table of my friends (J), then a table of our church small group (K) (pastor and his wife sat here since they were part of our church group).
We intentionally sat the young people (my friends, H's friends, and our church group) close to the bar. We sat our immediate family right in front of us (H's in the middle and mine on either side) and our extended family right behind them so they were all in the center. After that, we filled in the space. Since we had a smallish venue/wedding and only had 11 tables, nobody was very far away from us.
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