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Sean, on December 27, 2020 at 11:18 AM Posted in Planning 0 9

My fiancee and I currently live in Charleston, WV, but both of us are originally from and most of both our famlies live in State College, PA. Would it make sense for everyone else to travel to us from about the same location when the two of us could just go there and make everyone's lives a lot easier?


Latest activity by Michelle, on December 30, 2020 at 3:33 AM
  • Hannah
    Master July 2019
    Hannah Online ·
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    In your situation, I would probably put the burden of traveling on just you guys and host it in PA since it sounds like that's where the majority of the guests are.
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  • Yasmine
    Rockstar October 2020
    Yasmine ·
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    I probably would host it in your original home state if that's where majority of your family and friends live. It'll be less costly for you two to go there than everyone else come to WV
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  • MOB So Cal
    January 2019
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    I agree with the pps.... We were guests at a wedding where 90+% of the guests were required to travel cross country for a wedding. The bride kept talking about how much $$$$ it saved them by having the wedding in a remote resort town in upstate New York, without good airport access, in the middle of fall foliage season, but seemed completely oblivious to the fact that a conservative guesstimate was that, in total, their guests probably spent well in excess of $75,000 to attend their "bargain wedding!" Clearly, 3-4 years later, I'm still pretty salty about it.... Even more than the financial cost, it was super inconvenient (a Friday night in the middle of October) in terms of travel access and cost, and a terrible time to take off work. Unless your State College friends and family are pretty well off financially, travel at will, and have lots of free time, I'd definitely go to them.

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    Champion July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    I would have the wedding where most of your guests live rather than expecting all of them to travel to you. I'm from Williamsport, PA which isn't far from State College and there are some beautiful locations in that area.
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar April 2021
    Michelle ·
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    I’m in exactly the same situation as you! We live in northern AZ but the majority of our family lives in the Phoenix area which is 2.5 hours away. We decided to have our wedding in the Phoenix area since family lives there, plus the hotel rates are cheaper (for our friends who live up here).
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  • Victorian Bride
    Master February 2022
    Victorian Bride ·
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    I definitely agree with everyone. It'll save you many headaches and your guests will thank you.
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  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
    Mrs. Spring ·
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    Do what works for you. Planning a wedding out of town can be super stressful. However, if you suspect many of the guests you really wanted present won't attend if its in your city then that's something to consider
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    VIP July 2017
    Becky ·
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    99.9% of our guests had to travel for our wedding - we got married in Alabama, and had guests from Mississippi, Florida, North Carolina, Illinois, Missouri, and Ohio - but since they were all scattered, there was no way to have the wedding central to them. Honestly, though - I wouldn't have wanted to plan from afar. If you have the wedding in PA, expect that you're going to have to make a lot of trips there (or you're going to have to trust without seeing personally). Also - you should look at the cost of having the wedding in PA versus WV (while considering your guests costs as well because MOB So Cal has a point too).

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  • Michelle
    Rockstar October 2022
    Michelle Online ·
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    Make it easy on yourself and plan where you live. Guests travel all the time with no issues. Wedding planning from afar is very difficult and pricey compared to local because you can't see anything in person. That does not take into account that PA is a much higher cost of living area so wedding prices will be exorbitant in comparison.
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