Where should 2yo Ring Bearer go after being pulled down isle?

I wouldn’t use someone’s child as a prop for your ceremony then make them go inside. Are there grandparents or other relatives that he could sit with? If he wants to stand by one of his parents is it really the end of the world?

View Quoted Comment This. I wouldn’t let my kid get paraded down the aisle just for the sake of...what? I guess prop is the word.

I personally don’t consider what we are doing as “using him as a prop” for my wedding considering his parents and my other family members want him to be in it more than I do, but thanks for your feedback!

As a reminder, he is two. His parents are more concerned with his behavior than I am, which is why I posted on here in the first place. I am simply asking for genuine help, not an opinion. So if you are sharing the idea of him standing beside one of his parents, I’m all for it, but his parents aren’t. So any other ideas are also appreciated.

View Quoted Comment I agree. He’s not a prop. I would have him stand with either mom or dad. He may make a scene or something like that if you cart him off. It just makes your wedding even more special to have him there

For our wedding, we had my husband's two nephews in the wedding and two nieces (all of which are siblings). The one nephew was 15 so he helped the other one who was 3 walk down the aisle. The flower girls were 5 and almost 8. The 5 and 3 year old went with their babysitter to the balcony overlooking the ceremony after they walked down the aisle. The 15 year old and 8 year old sat with their parents as they weren't in the wedding. My brother-in-law and his wife had their babysitter attend the wedding so someone could watch the younger children. They asked us first if it was okay for her to attend and we were totally fine with it because that meant my brother-in-law and his wife could be there for the whole wedding and enjoy themselves. Is there someone that could assist with the ring bearer like a babysitter or friend of the parents so that both parents can be apart of the wedding? I have also seen where the child will stand with the parent in the wedding. At our friend's wedding, one of the bridesmaid's two children were in the wedding. The one child was terrified of walking down the aisle so the mom carried her down the aisle and held her during the ceremony. I would see if maybe mom or dad could hold the child if you are worried about him being upset.

I agree about having him sit with a family member he is close to. Neither of yours of FH's parents would be my first choice, because their attention should, rightfully, be focused on the two of you and the wedding. Perhaps BIL's parents or one of his siblings? Even if they wouldn't initially be on the list because you aren't that close to them, I'd invite them or someone else who the baby knows well, and have them sit in the front row as close to one of the parents as possible. I understand you found it insulting when people brought up the "prop" perception, but I also agree, at two, his behavior is probably a total crap shoot and pulling him down the aisle in a wagon may not turn out quite the way it does in Pinterest photos. If he's shrieking or trying to actively climb out of the wedding, be sure you have an awesome Plan B for what you're going to do. Daughter attended a wedding where the middle of the processional was delayed 10 minutes (like, there was a 10 minute pause), while the bride's family tried to calm and coax down the aisle a toddler FG who was throwing a huge temper tantrum.... It's interesting that your nephew's parents are pushing to have him in the wedding, but are also the most concerned about how he'll behave.

Daughter had a set of 4 relative siblings in her wedding; they were 4, 6, 8, & 10. Even at those ages they were the wedding "wild cards." Just one example (and there were many...)? The 10 yr old slugged the 6 yr old, HARD, right before they walked down the aisle. B & FOB were right behind them and stood there in horror waiting to see if they'd be brawling as they stepped into the doorway and down the aisle.... Luckily, the little one was so stunned, he just walked without a reaction or retaliation. Once they were down the aisle, all 4 kids circled around to the outside of the aisle on the B's side and sat in the 2nd row with their dad for the ceremony, while their mom stood as a BM. In the video, you can hear the 4 yr old talking the entire time during the ceremony.... Daughter is close to the 8 yr old, and really wanted her in the wedding, but all four kids were sort of a package deal, so she had to have them all. Honestly? They (and their mom...) were the biggest stress of her entire 18-months of wedding planning. If you WANT the baby in the wedding that's one thing, but if you're on the fence and doing it strictly to please others, I'd really think about it. He can be dressed up however you/they want him to be, but he could just be in some photos, if he's cooperative. Good luck!

My 💍🐻er was 2 (he turned 3 nine days after the Wedding). My plan was to have him walk with the 🌺🙇‍♀️ and her Mom (Bridesmaid). I introduced the kids during the Summer for this reason.

However, the day of I had him walk with his Dad in order for him to actually GET down the aisle with no delays, hiccups, or Tears.

Our ring bearer’s dad was in our wedding and he stood beside him for our ceremony. Our ceremony was extremely short so it worked for us. Does the ring bearer have grandparents/aunt/uncle coming that he can sit on their lap for a longer ceremony?