I agree that I've seen both - and it would depend what your FH would want to do. I think it's nice if they are ready, that they are out greeting some guests, but then go back to hiding a few minutes before it starts to be able to be in whatever formation they need to be in.
They are getting ready in the bridal suite while we get ready in our room at the Inn. Our DOC told us that about 30 minutes before the ceremony begins, the groom and groomsmen will be asked to go out and mingle with and welcome the guests so the bride and bridesmaids can go to the bridal suite until the ceremony begins. (The Inn is at the same location but on the other side of it and the bridal suite is right next to the ceremony area.)
I think both is acceptable, depends on their preference. Husband and I discussed it and decided it was best for them to hide out. There were many guests on my side that husband had never met before our wedding, and we realized it would be weird for him to meet them before the ceremony without me there... there were people I wanted to introduce him to and be there when he met them the first time. For us it just felt better to have both of us be hidden until the ceremony and then we could greet everyone together at cocktail hour.
But that was just us! If he'd rather welcome guests there's nothing wrong with that!
I think it’s up to you. My husband was out and about greeting guests and hanging out which was nice especially since we ran late (**errr not the girls. We were ready and hanging out waiting impatiently haha! But some issues arose that got the ceremony off to a delayed start. So I was glad that time wasn’t “wasted” so to speak....but I totally suffered from FOMO , AND I have a huge family so some cousins H hadn’t met yet. After the ceremony I was excitedly running around introducing him to people and it was like “oh yeah we met already” ...haha good for him! But it was nice they had that time. Also the 2nd shooter/photographer’s assistant was hanging out on site then and some of the pictures he got of my husband greeting guests are my favorites of the whole day
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Haha I was just commenting on a similar issue! I’m glad H was out and about to meet and greet people and keep them entertained but man there was definitely a little sting of (idk, jealousy ? ) when I dragged him over to meet a cousin and they were both like “oh yah we know eachother already” 😂
I've seen it done both ways, it just all depends on your timeline and venue. If everything goes according to plan, then my FH and his guys will be done with pictures in time to greet guests as they arrive.
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Hahaha that’s exactly what I didn’t want to happen! FOMO I guess :p it’s a little silly but when I explained to husband he was instantly like “oh yeah I don’t want you to miss out on that” and was happy to hide before the ceremony (I think he also was happy to have more alone time with his groomsmen, since 3/4 of them are from out of town and he rarely sees them)
My guy and his guys are all going to be in a room separate from my suite until the first look, then we’ll all do pics and then go back to our separate quarters before the ceremony. My venue is pretty self explanatory to find the ceremony space, and I’ll have a DOC and waitstaff to help guests find the location anyways.
I'm assuming that he will be hanging out in the "guys waiting area" before the wedding. I haven't really thought about it. I know that all the guys get to get ready in a room with a tv, a pool table and I think a bar. So I'm jealous lol But it doesn't take as long for them to get ready and they'll probably get bored. I'll have to ask FH what he thinks about it. Maybe going out and greeting people would be a good idea
My FH and his groomsmen will most likely hide out. They will arrive 1 hour prior to ceremony to take pictures (we are not doing a first look) then hide out in the reception space after pictures until it is time for the ceremony line up. Myself and my bridesmaids will be in our room waiting as well.
But you can do whatever works best for you and your FH! Either way is fine!