Where is the father of the bride when getting ready for the wedding?

My immediate family got ready at my parents' house (me, my parents, brothers, and sister). My BM came over before the ceremony, and we took some family/bridal party pictures beforehand.

I would say he should get ready with you

I think it depends on what you want to do since your parents don't live together. If this were my family I'd probably have my dad get ready at his house and then arrive at my mom's house when I wanted him to be there for pictures. At my wedding my (step)dad got ready in their hotel room and then arrived in the bridal suite for pictures once I was dressed.

I cannot imagine inviting him to get ready with you at your mom's house, unless SHE was OK with that. I do not think uncommon, if they are divorced, for him to get ready at his house or hotel.

I think it might be weird if he got ready with you at your mom's house, even if they are on good terms. Get to the church a few minutes earlier than you need to and share a special moment with your dad there. You can take some photos then too!

It's going to take you hours to get ready. I don't think he needs to be there for it all. If it was his house where he had something to do then it would be fine but I feel like he would be awkwardly waiting. I would tell him to show up about 30 minutes or so before you plan to leave to the ceremony. Get some pictures in and get going.