When you give money as a gift do you give a cash or a check? Also do cards get stolen often.

I usually chose a giftcard to the store or one of stores where the couple has made a registry.

I don't know if it happens a lot, I guess it would depend on the family, the location etc.

I don't worry about ours getting stolen, but still plan to have a locked box or something for the cards.

I would give cash. It's more convenient. Just check out the box beforehand. If it makes you worried, you could always mail the gift directly to the couple.

I always give a check, it's safer than cash.

Considering my venue has a card holder which is bolted to the floor and only the manager has the key to it? I'd say they can get swiped pretty easy. Our venue can host up to 4 events at once however so there is a greater risk of wedding crashers I suppose.

I'd write a check because you can always cancel it if by chance the card gets lost or stolen.

My cousin got married in June and her venue didn't have much security (it was a big fancy community room in a big fancy gated community) and half of her cards got stolen along with the bridal party's wallets/purses.

I went to a wedding where I gave cash in a card. I later heard from some friends that a lot of the gifts were stolen. I never received a thank you card, so I assume my gift was stolen. From now on, I give a cheque.

Each time I've been very impressed with how fast the cheque was cashed (the next day). If you do write a cheque, make sure you make it out to "Bride or Groom" instead of "Bride and groom", in case they don't have a joint bank account yet.

Sending the gift directly to the couple is also a good option.

I always do cash

I usually do a gift card or vouchers. I do worry about things getting stolen though. Like Ottawa the last wedding I went to I didn't receive a thank you card, and it was at a strange place that was just like a pub so I do wonder if the gift wandered off. Or the bride and groom may just be a bit flakey as they are known for!

I have never heard of gifts/money being stolen from a wedding... At least not in my circle. But for us, we are pretty lucky because our venue is taking care of all the gifts and putting them away as people come in and security is provided.

I have never heard of gifts/money being stolen from a wedding... At least not in my circle. But for us, we are pretty lucky because our venue is taking care of all the gifts and putting them away as people come in and security is provided.

I would NEVER stick my check in a card in a room full of people bc if by chance it was stolen, someone now has your routing & acct number as well as your name and address. NO THANKS. Stick with cash or a gift card. Or mail the card directly to the couple.

I have never heard of cards/gifts being stolen either, but I have also never received thank-you cards. Hope my gifts made it to the bride & groom!

I do both. If I write a check, I leave it in the card box. If I'm giving cash, I usually hand it to the groom. I hand it to the groom because they usually have room in their breast pocket in their jacket to hold for safe keeping.

We generally give cash. It's the couple's responsibilty to secure their gifts.

I always write a check.

I've heard of cards getting stolen a couple of times, figure that writing a check is a little bit of a safer route to go.

I give cash as it is easier for the bride and groom. I've only heard of cards/gifts being stolen once (and it was the groom's father and younger brother that got caught trying to steal the cards!)

I always write a Cheque. Much safer and no one but the couple can cash it so what is the point in anyone stealing it

I always give a check.

IMO Cash is a horrible idea! Always do Check!

Check. Even without the whole cards being stolen thing - I have heard (maybe here?) of grooms taking out all the cash and not writing down who gave what so the bride thought some people gave empty cards. Sorry, but I want credit for what I have given.

My friend had her card box stolen (by a hotel employee by the way). It took 2 years and a lawyer to get the hotel to accept responsibility even though there was video of the employee. It was a nightmare - they had to call each guest and ask if they had put a card in the box and how much cash, gift card, etc. I always write a check and this one time I stupidly put in cash. Never again for cash. They have no idea if the settlement was anything near what the gifts actually were, but it sure put a pall over their wedding.

I usually do a check because I never have cash and going to the ATM is a pain. I personally hate gift cards so I don't give them.

I only write the check to one of the people getting married because cashing a check made out to "Mr and Mrs. Joe Smith" when there is no Mrs. Joe Smith right away is a pain. The only reason ours were cashed quickly is the govt shut down so we had time to go to the bank together and do it.