When you dont what you only sister as part of your bridesmaidsat all.

Your mom can't make you do anything seeing as you're, presumably, an adult. Is she contributing to the wedding financially? Is your relationship with your sister contentious?

I agree with Megan above. Its YOUR DAY! So you should remember it how you want and not please others.

Maybe you can give her another role in the wedding. Possibly she can do a reading or something else.

Mandatory implies that someone has the power to enforce a rule. Is mom paying for the wedding? If not, then mandatory doesn't exist here.

Is there a reason you don’t want your sister involved? While I understand that not all siblings are close, if there isn’t a legitimate reason (like she abuses you or something), it may be easier to just invite her to avoid the drama. It is your wedding day, but it is also a big day in your families lives. If you are hard set on not having her as a bridesmaid, I would ask her to be involved in some other way. But I can tell you as someone who has been married once before, in the long run it really doesn’t matter who was in your bridal party after the day is done.

Nope I have an only sister to she is not gonna be a bridesmaid or in the wedding in any way we are not close and shes burned bridges with most my family shes not even invited to the wedding. Tell your mom you love her and respect her opinion but its your day and you get to choose who stands beside you on this day!

You are an adult and you get to choose who is in your wedding party. This is probably a good time to start setting boundaries and making decisions because there are a lot more to come when you plan a wedding!

My dad wanted me to have my sister as a bridesmaid, but I said no. My sister and I simply aren't close enough for her to be a member of my bridal party. Please stand your ground! Maybe you can find something else for your sister to do, like maybe a reading!

To answer everyone's questions yes my mom is paying for most of my wedding. Also dont get me wrong i love my sister dearly but she has not always been the kindest to me. I am gonna have her in my wedding because my mom wont back down and i would rather choose my battles and not cause more problems. Its not worth it. I just i gonna have to grit my teeth and deal with it.

Growing up my mom's older sister hated my mom for no good reason, she was just a nasty person and didn't want a younger sibling I guess. They were both in each other's weddings, but my mom said her sister asked simply so she wouldn't look bad. It's your choice but at the end of the day if your mom is paying for most of the wedding, I agree it's less stress to not fight it. Plus it's not like she has to be MOH, and you could stick her at the end if you want. FH is not having his brother in his wedding because his younger brother started a war of not wanting to talk to my FH, so it was my FH's choice but we are paying for the majority of our wedding and their mom isn't the type to demand something. She isn't even making FH's younger brother come to the wedding if he chooses not to.

My mom made me do the same thing, my sister is very unreliable and I have had to count on myself to go to dress fittings and try to remember how to bustle my own dress... just becuase its "family" doesnt mean anything

You're an adult, right? That means that mom can't make you do anything you don't want to do. She doesn't get to decide what is "mandatory" for YOUR wedding. Period. End of discussion. Do what you want.

My mom tried to make me have my brother be a groomsman since she paid for my dress. I asked if it would be okay if he was an usher and she said it would look tacky for him to be the only usher and thought they were stupid. So we agreed he'd be a groomsman. But after some build up family drama exploded I told her it wasn't going to happen. After a little push back I finally got her to agree to him being an usher, so long as my cousin is one too.