When to track down Rsvps?

After the RSVP date passes

View Quoted Comment I'm just a bit worried people forgot because they have had so much time to think.

Unfortunately, this is the risk you run when you send your invitations out 5 months before the event. That's why it's recommended to send them 6-8 weeks before the wedding. You shouldn't follow up until the deadline that you provided has passed. I would wait until June 9th or so for stragglers who may have sent theirs back the day it is due. You have plenty of time since the deadline is a month before you need your final counts.

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That's why you usually shouldn't send them out super early. You really shouldn't bother people about it until after the RSVP date and considering you have a month after the RSVP date until you need the final count, that is plenty of time to follow up with people.

I would say hold off until the RSVP deadline has hit. If you have social media of any kind you can make a post that just reminds guests the deadline for RSVP's is coming up and that might give guests a little extra nudge. But as for reaching out to them, I would try to patiently hold off until June 7th as passed.

View Quoted Comment Thank you for the input. The reason we sent them out so early is because the venue could only block off rooms until March 1st. We later got this changed to April 1st. Plus flights are expensive if you don't have enough time. I'm not looking to get people to respond to me today but I didn't know if I should send them a reminder message. All the RSVPs are done online via wedding website or email

I would wait until the RSVP deadline to contact people. Our RSVP deadline is May 17th. FHs BM told him on Saturday that a couple we invited isn't coming. Yet they didn't RSVP lol. It is annoying waiting but it wouldn't really be polite to ask before you're RSVP due date, imo.

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Accommodations are typically made when you send out save the dates. They're adults, they don't need a reminder. I would find it rude for the couple to remind me to RSVP a month before the RSVP is even due.

If you already have the rsvp due date set for a month before you actually need to know that will give you plenty of time to ask people after the due date. From my experience you will get a large number of them back the week they’re due and in the day or 2 after they’re due. If you do it now you’ll have double the amount of people to call, it’ll be a lot easier on you just to wait

You would wait until your RSVP deadline passes. Typically a few days later, to give time for the stragglers to come in. Our RSVP date just passed a few days ago, so I'm currently doing the follow ups. We had 125 out of 245 RSVP by the deadline. So I have a lot of follow ups to do, but I'm splitting it up between me, FH, and our moms.

AFTER the RSVP date that you set. If people are mailing them back, give it a few days after the RSVP date before following up as many people don’t drop it into the mail until that date. In my opinion it is rude to give someone a deadline and then not honor it (by pestering them for a response sooner). Wait until the date you set, that is why you set it.

Some people purposely wait until last minute to RSVP just in case things come up so I definitely agree with everyone else and wait until the RSVP date you set has passed.

The sooner you try to get people to respond, the more last minute cancellations and no-shows you’ll end up with! Unfortunately life happens and people can be flaky, and when pressured to respond super far in advance will often just say “yes” because they think they can come, but will end up not being able to.

I understand wanting to know who’s coming, but be patient! Asking now won’t even give you an accurate headcount because people’s plans will change.

Start following up by phone 1 week after Rsvp date, about June 15.

You definitely want to wait until after the date passes. I sent out an email today to those who have not RSVPed and it has been about a week since they were due.

We are getting married out of town took and sent them out a little earlier than the wedding date timeline because I knew we would have to track people down and I ddI not want to do that that close to the date numbers are due. Plus, I wanted to do it with enough time for the hotel blocks too.

We sent out save the dates with the information to go to our wedding website where all hotel information has been up (with the deadlines there too). If people do not book in time or waste money, that is on them. You have other things to worry about because I have learned that these people are adults and wait until the last minute to send back a card so booking a room is not going to happen any faster. There will also be a ton of people who do not RSVP because they are not going and unfortunately in the case of destination weddings, less people tend to show up.