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Just Said Yes September 2018

When to send thank you cards?

Lindz929, on August 8, 2018 at 8:58 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 2

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I'm getting married next month and we've already started getting gifts from our registry. For a few of those people, we've gone ahead and send out thank you cards, both to be courteous and to stay on top of it. Recently we've gotten a couple of gifts from people who have not yet RSVP'ed and I don't know whether they're coming (family friends). I want to go ahead and send a card, but since I don't know whether or not they're attending the wedding, I can't say either "looking forward to celebrating with you!" or acknowledge the kindness of their gift despite their not coming. Awkward.

Should I wait until they RSVP? I want them to know that the gifts made it safely to us and express our gratitude.

Should I just wait until after the wedding and then send cards to all guests?

Should folks who already got a thank you card for a gift ALSO get a thank you card for attending the wedding, after the fact?

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Latest activity by Kelly, on August 8, 2018 at 10:40 AM

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Mrs. H · on August 8, 2018 at 9:05 AM
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I would send a "Thank You" as soon as you receive a gift so that you're better able to keep track of everyone who sent you a gift and everything you've received. If you wait until after the wedding, you're only going to have that many more "Thank You's" to write all at once.
I would also keep your wedding or any mention of the RSVP out of your note, and if you still haven't heard back from them once your deadline has passed, then I would reach out.
To answer your last question, you only send "Thank You's" to those who have gifted you in some way (i.e., registry, cash, check, etc.), so no need to double-up on notes.
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Kelly · on August 8, 2018 at 10:40 AM
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Hi Lindz929! So exciting to already be getting gifts!! Once you've started receiving gifts from people, I would suggest to start sending thank you notes ASAP, that way you can get some of them out of the way and don't have to do a whole bunch after the wedding! I would just say something like "Looking forward to using (object) in our married life", instead of bringing up the wedding! Also, you don't send thank-you notes to those who attended, normally you just thank them all for coming while they are all there!
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