When to send invites

October is way too early. I wouldn’t send them earlier than January.

View Quoted Comment Thank you for your input lovely. Most things I’ve read have said a few months before unless it’s a destination wedding (which to most it is) so I’m just nervous that January will be too late for those who will see “adult reception and ceremony” on the invite and may have already booked flights and whatnot.

By sending the save the dates, your guests will have enough time to get their travel/hotel plans sorted out. Invitations don't need to go out until 6-8 weeks prior to the wedding.

You are not behind sane the dates so I would send those, people will not RSVP this early to a wedding.

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Are you doing a website? If so, maybe include that on the STD or add in a detail card with the website on there. That way, people can look at pertinent information such as no children. That information shouldn't be put on the invitation anyway.

View Quoted Comment Hello love. Yes we are doing a wedding website. It is under our “FAQs” section which we know not everyone will see and I’m just worried that since it’s a destination wedding for 80% of our guest who will be traveling from all different states, that if I send the wedding invites in January, that there is a chance people will book flights for their kids/families before receiving the invitation that will officially say “adult ceremony and reception”. Most websites I’ve looked at have said for “destination weddings”, invites should be sent 4-6 months prior to the wedding so that guest can get affordable flights and hotels. So I’m just trying to get an idea if that’s right

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I wonder if that 4-6 month invite guideline is in lieu of sending STDs? I'd probably still not send invites out until 8 weeks out or so and just make sure to specifically address who the STD is for on the envelope. Then use word of mouth to let it be known there will not be any kids invited. "As much as we'd love to have your children at the wedding, our venue/budget has restricted it to an adult only affair." (Or something along those lines).

View Quoted Comment 99% of people traveled for my wedding and we sent invites 2 and a half months before and had no issues. Most people don’t book flights till 6-8 weeks beforehand. Address the save the dates to just the couple, put it on your wedding website, and start spreading that it will be adults only by word of mouth.

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much for your input!!! It’s very helpful

I would make sure to include wedding website with save the date so they have accommodation details for booking if not I think October is perfect so everyone can plan according. If you have a deadline with room block you should consider that as well.

I have hear as late as 6 weeks out; personally, I think 3 months ahead will be best. People
can plan better that way, even with STDs having been sent.

March is Mardi Gras season. If anyone is planning on booking a hotel, I would tell them to do it early. It books up extremely fast.

View Quoted Comment Yeah we’re getting married about a week and a half after Mardi Gras so that we miss the craziness (and expensive hotels) during the celebration

Great! Just wanted to make sure

Because of your timing, I’d send right at the beginning of the new year or right at the end of December. I got married this past March & sent mine out right before Christmas because so many people were asking where their invites were. Most people didn’t get them until right at New Years. Just something to consider.

We sent ours out 3 months in advance, save the dates 10 months in advance. The EARLIEST I'd send is November, but depending on your RSVP date you could do January. I just wouldn't do December.

I have a lot of people traveling from outside the city/state/country, and I have my date set for send-out as the second week in July for a September 8 wedding, to give everyone enough time to get themselves together. However, I have them all ready now, as of last night, and am considering sending today, to get it out of the way and to give people ample time. It might seem way early to some, but I know my family!

We're getting married March of 2020 as well!

We'll be sending our save the dates out in August and invites will go out mid January!

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This is a great point. I'd definitely avoid sending anything important in the mail between, say, the week before Thanksgiving through the New Year.