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When to send invites if no save the date?

Sahrish, on December 27, 2019 at 9:57 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 3

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I have a bit of a unique situation with my guest list and invitations. My parents don't approve of my wedding due to FH's religion and are not planning on attending, but I am still planning on inviting my entire extended family, since that's customary for us. We typically don't do STDs and I'm not sending them to my family for various reasons. Usually the parents are the ones that spread the news about the wedding and the entire family is involved in the planning, but that's not the case for me. I'm not super close with much of my extended family, and many of them also don't really approve of the wedding (but haven't outright said whether or not they will attend).

All of them are out-of-towners as well, so my question is how early can I send the invites? Its only to family, so I can't imagine them forgetting about the wedding if they RSVP yes, since I know that's usually the concern with early invites. But I don't want to risk anyone not showing up if they did, and vice versa.

Thanks!

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Latest activity by Sherry, on December 30, 2019 at 9:53 AM

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Nicole · on December 27, 2019 at 10:00 PM
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Typical wedding invitations go out 6-8 weeks before the wedding. Since you're not sending STDs and are having a lot of guests who would need to travel, I would think 10-12 weeks in advance would be fine.
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Judith · on December 28, 2019 at 3:17 PM
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One main reason to have the convention that all invitations arrive in people's homes 6-8 weeks before the event, is potential conflicting invitations there at once. If you sent yours 4-6 weeks early, to a distant relative, then 4 weeks after you accept, you get an invitation from someone you work with every day, , and another for the next day after the other weddings from your SO's sister, if you are most people you will go to the wedding of the person closest to you. Or if one involves travel , you might go to two on a SAT and a Sun, close to you, and not the distant one, even though only one of them is someone closer. People answer an early invitation, then cancel when later ones come in. Send yours no earlier than 8 weeks out, so people will receive all invitations for a date together, make decisions, and you will not get false, changing answers. Revising your count several times because people change their answer is a PITA.
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Sherry · on December 30, 2019 at 9:53 AM
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Invites should go out 6-8 weeks before the wedding.
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