When to say our vows?

Ask the officiant. Every state has it's own wording that must be said during the ceremony for legal purposes. Find out where in the ceremony they can be added.

They are generally not part of photos or reception.

I've been to a Greek Orthodox wedding so I understand what you mean about not being able to customize your vows.

The question you need to ask yourselves is if you want your guests to watch you and your husband reading them to each other. If so, then you should schedule that during the reception (maybe before toasts/speeches). If that doesn't matter to you, then you have a lot more flexibility. Any time you and your husband can get a few minutes to yourselves during the reception would be a good time.

I've never personally seen this done at a reception, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't do it. If you do want an audience, I would make sure your vows don't go on too long because you will lose your guests' attention.

Maybe after the ceremony & pictures, when it’s just the 2 of you?

1. can I ask a dumb question? I don’t want to be offensive in any way so I’ll wait for a green light


And 2. I think a first touch would be an amazing idea for you guys to read your vows to each other. Or maybe at some point in the reception y’all can read them before your first dance?

View Quoted Comment Good idea. I’ll definitely ask because I would’ve liked for us to read them during the ceremony.

View Quoted Comment Yes it’s truly a beautiful ceremony and we wouldn’t have it any other way but I will miss the reading of the vows to each other during the ceremony. Very sound advice on the option of reading them at the reception, thank you!

View Quoted Comment I’m definitely not opposed to that! I was thinking also during our bride and groom photos. I’d love to have that moment documented by our photographer and videographer so that would be a good time for it.

View Quoted Comment 1. Go right ahead! I’m not easily offended
2. I also thought the first touch/reading vows would be cute and a nice time to do it. Would it take away from it by not being able to see each other though? We’d have it documented by our videographer either way. Before the first dance is a good idea too!

View Quoted Comment Yay! You said Greek wedding and I immediately thought of my big fat Greek wedding, is there any truth to the just of the movie with family wise and the planning aspect of a Greek wedding?


I think it would be looked at as more of love letters to each other than vows If you do it as a first touch but it adds to the sentimental value of your words to each other. It would also be something that’s just for you two.

View Quoted Comment Haha!! I haven’t seen that movie in forever but so far planning and family aspects have been pretty normal. My FH, who is Greek, has a lot of family but the only ones involved with wedding planning has been my FMIL (coincidentally her name is Tula just like the main character in the movie LOL!). He immigrated to the US when he was 8 so a lot of his family is still in Greece, so we’ll be having a separate reception style party there as well, that dynamic I’m sure will be very different than our wedding in the states. Overall his family has been amazing and so happy for us. I’ll be getting baptized Greek Orthodox very soon too. As far as how the wedding will be, there will be Greek dancing at the reception along with a few other Greek traditions! I don’t have a massive bridal party though which I believe is a Greek wedding trope, I have only my 2 brothers as my men of honor and 2 bridesmaids. Though it will be a big fat Greek wedding for sure because we have a LOT of guests on my FH’s side haha!

View Quoted Comment That is so awesome!!! I can’t wait to see pictures!

View Quoted Comment Thank you! I’ll be sure to post them here 🥰