When to give out of state guests a heads up?

I would send STDs just to your OOT family members. They don't have to be a lot of money. Vistaprint has a lot of simple ones. I'd feel weird finding out about your wedding via text.

I think this is the point of an STD - which you don't have to send to everyone, you can limit to OOT guests that you think need time to save. If you don't want to physically mail, I'd design a wedding website and see if you can collect email addresses and then give them a head's up that way.

Would you consider doing STDs just for your out of state VIPs? The wording that you gave is literally what STDs are for lol. If you don't want to, people usually do STDs around 8 months out, so I guess between 8 and 10 months out from your date would be the ideal time to do this.

Agree to send STD with OOT guests. Also might consider making a website

We told our OOT guests as soon as we had a definite date and location. That way they could put it on their calendar if they wanted to.

You don't need to send anything formal, but a message or phone call now is fine! I mean, that's kind of how weddings worked before STDs became a thing...

Initially I had planned to do STDs and everyone said skip them. I'm not opposed at all, I just feel like they need more notice that 8-10 weeks. I understand it's a big expense, and I want to give them the best shot at being able to make it.

I highly recommend STD's. It's a great reminder that they can keep instead of a phone call where some people may forget the date. Vista print has great prices and they are fun to design. I sent my STD's out in January for a July wedding. I had planned to do it sooner but just didn't get them out.

STD can be sent now if your date is correct. 8-10 weeks is for invitations

I live in WI and am getting married in CA where my family is. FH family is from IL. We're opposites, lol! I sent STD only to OOT guests and immediate family I knew I was inviting so they knew the date. Everyone else will just get the invitation. Also put my website on the STD and is in the invitation. Hope that helps!

Message them in advance if you're not sending save the dates. We sent our STD's a year in advance for a far away destination wedding so people can have an entire year to plan/save.

Unfortunately we assumed only 50 people out of 200 would come and it's looking like 100 are coming! Ha oh well- the more the merrier! (And more $$!)

But give people plenty of notice- like now! If you want them there! Sending a link to your wedding website via email would be nice too.