when to expect the RSVP's

We have the same wedding date and I will be sending mines out this weekend and I was wondering the same thing. Did you put a response date on your invite. I ask my guest to respond no later than September 1...

Mine started coming back within a week...and some NEVER came back!

You do have to be patient though. And expect to have to make some phone calls after your deadline has passed. And expect that even after phone calls, you may be ignored.

I was thinking about this in my car this morning on my way to work. Im glad someone else got to me first. I sent mine out last tuesday also and havent seen one yet. Had several people call about how nice the invites were, plus I made a major boo boo and forgot to do the Numbered list that matches the number on the rsvp card incase people forget to put their name on the card. I might be making more calls because of my own dumb mistake.

I agree with lauren10...I got a bunch right away, like within 2 weeks, but now I have not received as many and my deadline is Saturday! I am getting frustrated. I knew I would have to call some people, but this is really ridiculous. Don't people realize that if you have to choose a meal, then you really need to send that card back? Lol...guess we will see how the rest of the week goes. I have to give my caterer a number next week, so it should be interesting.

Girls I had the same dilema.. i sent my invites out in May the first two weeks was like wow they are coming in like hot cakes, and then pooof that was it no more.. now i have about 26 invites that have yet responded to no emails, text messgages, messages on facebook nor myspace... i feel ignored!!! so let's see what happens... come on in all reality is that hard to write your name your guests name pop it in the envelope that by the way we have already stamped for you and mail it out!!!!!! Lord smh

Sence our wedding is small and informal, I just put my home phone number on them so they could just call the RSVP in. The people we invited our mostly friends and family. Out of 40 invites, 2 have emailed me to say they were coming. But, we're going on the two week mark here and I really would like to know how many to expect so I don't run short on food, cakes, favors, etc.

Also another ?....do we just assume that family is coming, or do they need to RSVP too? This is insane!!!! It's not that hard to pick up a phone or drop an RSVP card in the mail...why do they make it so difficult?

I know my family is bad about picking up cards, invites, the works and saying, oh, isnt that nice and putting it one the fridge, window sill by the sink or by the coffee pot where they will see it to remind them, but do the ever take anything out of the inside, NOPE. I had to remind severl family members to RSVP to the engagement party my FMIL held.

Yeah, FH and I were talking about this last night...whether or not to assume family is coming. It's tricky, ya know. And fusterating. It's not like we are just sitting around twitleing our thumbs, waiting. We still have things to do.

I put a RSVP by date because I was afaid of not getting them back, but since yours are already sent out I would wait about a month and then after that make a list of who you have not heard from yet. Have your MOH, MOB, or FMIL call, BUT MAKE SURE THEY ARE CALLING ONLY THE PEOPLE THEY DONT KNOW because people will lie to you! or they will be stuck in very long conversations!!! Have them say something like, "Hi, I'm just calling to see if you could send in your RSVP for ____&_____'s wedding on the ______ within the next week so that we can make sure there is enough chairs, tables, and food." If they try to give you numbers that they are unsure about over the phone say, "Okay, well once you find out for sure fill out our RSVP and pop it in the mail!" having the physical in your hand will help out alot.

Mine started coming back within the week... (Like they were sent out Monday/Tuesday, I started getting them back Friday) and we are STILL getting them!! I asked guests to kindly respond by the 10th but left this week open for late people which I apparently have a bunch of... I am still waiting on about 60 replies but already have about 150 people attending the wedding!!! whooooo hoo... Seating chart here we come!!!

We recommend that our brides set the RSVP date two weeks before their caterer/planner requires the final count. That way you have plenty of time to review the list, make phone calls, etc.

That's a great idea SimplyLuck! Having other people call for you so 'hopefully' you get less runaround. I know people in Tucson are famous for not RSVPing so I'm not looking forward to trying to get a head count!

Expect them back a week after the "please respond by______" date.

and make sure a bridesmaid does the calling when you dont get them back, as it is there job to do. have a speach of sorts typed out

"hi this is (bridesmaids name) one of the bridesmaids for (bride) just calling to see if you were planning on attending the wedding for (bride and grom) on (date and time) i see that you and (# of guests/ family) were invited. will you be attending?"

I put on them to RSVP by Sept. 10th. Maybe they will start calling...I hope so.

I started to get mine abotu a week later and amm still gettign them. i think i'll have calls to make LOL

Well you have to anticipate that some people will put the rsvp in the mail on the exact date you put down, so it will take a few days to get to you in the mail. you might want to wait till the end of the week or even next week to see what you get in the mail before you tackle the task of calling everyone.

I sent my RSVP's out almost 3 weeks ago and asked to respond by June 9th. I haven't even received 1/4 of them back. A friend of mine that lives in TX still hasn't gotten hers yet, while another in Nebraska has already sent her response. Half the problem is that you just can't trust the Post Office these days. Another issue is that people who can't make it didn't even send the response back at all. I followed up with a few of my close friends and I got a text saying they got the invite but couldn't come. I asked them to still send the response card back. I think it's just rude and thoughtless. All of the time, money and effort spent on getting these done and sent out with paid postage to return and they text you. What happened to common sense and courtesy?!