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When to dress shop?

Elle, on January 29, 2020 at 11:53 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 4

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Hi friends! So I'm very into planning and have booked most, if not all, of my major vendors very far in advance. But WeddingWire's checklist says I need to start dress shopping in the next few months and I am NOT looking forward to it. All I can imagine is me breaking down crying in dress shop after dress shop, because I just know the whole process is going to make me feel insecure about my weight again. Growing up, I was a pageant girl, so my weight gain later in life took a long time to get past. I genuinely do feel pretty good about myself most days, but the idea of wedding dress shopping just puts me in a terrible mindset. My weight fluctuates fairly often, either up or down, so I'm scared to even buy a dress a year in advance, because I'm worried it won't look good on me anymore by the time the wedding comes around. I also am super indecisive about exactly what I want the dress to look like stylistically, and I feel like having to buy it so far in advance will make it harder for me to be absolutely sure about what I want. How long can I put off dress shopping before I absolutely HAVE to go buy one?

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Latest activity by Dayna, on January 30, 2020 at 2:46 PM

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Kathryn · on January 30, 2020 at 12:10 AM
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Hey there! Congrats on the engagement and on being so far ahead!!! Dresses do take time to come in - sometimes eight months or more depending on the designer. You can also go for a bit longer if you go to David's Bridal. I ordered my dress in December and got it freshly made for me by mid-January. Don't be too scared about dress shopping. You may be able to find one with a corset back to allow your weight to flux, and you can also leave plenty of time for alterations. Breathe girl! Dress shopping should be fun - don't pressure yourself. You're going to be beautiful no matter what you pick. Just make sure you allow enough time for shopping and for the production of your dress.
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Don · on January 30, 2020 at 1:24 AM
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Hi Ellen,
Congratulations, you should start dress shopping asap, they can take 6-8 months to come in depending on the designer! I looked online at all the different styles before making appointments, so I would have an idea of what I liked or didn't like, I got my dress 18 months before the wedding, but my seamstress said I could wait until 2 months before the wedding to make the alterations, I'm worried about weight also, but shopping is FUN!! I tried on 30 dresses, stepping into all those gorgeous gowns made me feel like a princess, also, don't bring a lot of people with you when you go, to many opinions tend to cloud your judgement and you may be swayed by others suggestions, I was told this by several girlfriends, they were right!
My dress is from Stella York, style 6979, if you care to look at it!
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Don · on January 30, 2020 at 1:33 AM
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My apologies for addressing you as Ellen
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Dayna · on January 30, 2020 at 2:46 PM
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I understand it can be really tough. I gained about 50 lb in college and have been struggling to lose it. Honestly, I think the longer you put off dress shopping, the MORE stressful it will become. You'll start to feel the pressure of HAVING to choose something. If you start early, you can take it slow and just do one shop on a day you are feeling good. If you don't find something, try again next week. Take just one or two people you feel really comfortable with. Dresses can take a while to come in (if you are ordering from a traditional shop), but you won't get final alterations until much closer to the wedding so it's okay if your sizes changes after ordering. If you REALLY want to put it off, you can look for warehouse stores that sell off the rack, so you can buy your dress later instead of waiting for an order. Another option would be to shop online from stores like Azazie which offer try at home for a small price like $10-$20, which might be more comfortable.
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